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Child Abuse Story From Ethan

by Ethan
(Los Angeles, California, USA)




It was 10 years ago when I was 11. I had been in a swimming club for kids for over a year. My grandma would have driven me to the pool almost everyday. Til there was this man I could still clearly recall his figure by the carhatt shirt he always wore. We were "friend" for some time and he told me his personal story that he had a son that lived with his wife, and he was very upset. He was glad to meet a boy like me, which to him, pictured his son. He always asked if I want anything like a juice after a swim or some food.

At first I thought he was a really kind man, but nothing else. Somehow I also felt kinda bad for him due to his family issue. Perhaps because I had the same issue too, I stayed mostly with my grandparent, my mom was a foreign reporter and she rarely home. One day he also bought me a new pair of goggles, which made him to me like a very special friend. My grandma also had a good impression with him.

And one day when I was showering, he knocked on my cubicle and asked if he could come in and give me a shampoo bottle. I didnt even hesitate and unlock the door. He stood there and applied the shampoo on my body. I was a bit shy but I didnt say anything. I thanked him and he went out. The incident didnt concern me at all, because to me he was a very kind man. The following days he would come in to shower with me, he said it was very fun to shower with me, reminded him of his son. He told me him and his son usually played in the shower and it was a fun time. After a few days I got used to him being in the shower with me. He told me to not tell my grandma or mother because it was a guy thing. And that made perfect sense to me, I didnt even bother telling my grandma or mom. Later he asked if I know anything about having sex and he showed me photos of boy/boy and man/boy having sex. Back then I had in mind that's how baby was born, but it was between a man and a woman, not the same gender. But he told me it felt very pleasure and that I should try to know the feeling. Somehow I knew that the things he did with me was not right, but I wasnt totally sure. I felt weird and confused those nights. I started to feel pain. I didnt know whether what he was doing with me right or wrong. And I was scared to tell my mom or grandma. After the 3rd time, I told him how I felt, but he kept insisting that it was healthy for me. I didnt know how to defend myself.



The following days, I stayed at home, telling my grandma that I was sick of swimming and would changed to rugby. I never saw him again, but the things he did to me were haunting. I lived in a house that knowledge about these situations is very limited. It took me some time to set my mind right when I hit puberty with all those thoughts and confusion.

Til this day, I researched what could have been the effects of sexual abuse, I am frightened that it could have gone much worse for me. I could never forget those 2 weeks in my life.




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Child Abuse Story From Ethan

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Sep 28, 2011
Ethan:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

This pedophile "groomed" both you and your grandmother. He used the story of missing his son in order to gain your trust, and when he did gain your trust, he then escalated to his true intentions. He sought you out, sought out a male child without a father in the picture, knowing how to treat you so you would trust him. That's what pedophiles do, Ethan. They are masters at reading situations where they can manipulation and control. You are not to blame for what happened to you. You were the child, he was the adult. He had all the power, and he misused that power. Your grandmother was blind to his intentions, which put you at further risk for sexual abuse. But you can be so proud of yourself for listening to your inner Self and doing what you could at that age to not go back to the environment. Just don't ever blame yourself, Ethan. This pedophile was a predator, and very likely had many victims. Consider reporting him to the authorities. You may well be saving other little boys from being victimized by him. And do consider some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the effects this pedophile and the sexual abuse had on you. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Sep 29, 2011
I AM AMAZING: The Architect of my own Destiny
by: MAURICE

Ethan: Please spend time with Darlene's comment: she has affirmed you ever so naturally and truly: Finding her Safe Haven Site is and will be a whole new living for you: Once you take personal responsibility and ownership of her heart words to you: Again take special note of I hope you try some form of counselling: She knows that will be a good beginning for you: You are intelligent as you were when you had the courage to say NO this is not right what he is doing to me: Ethan, he was a bad man a Pedophile grooming you convincing your Grand Ma he would look after you: He preyed on you, your tender years, your innocent and vunerable years as a child maturing: A percent of Adult are cunning, devious, dangerous when there sickness is pedophille: I remember when I was your age a very old religious brother in the school I was sent getting his satisfaction of coming into the bath room when I was in it and washing me as if he cared for me but he was a sicko too: He spanked my bare bottom when he got the chance: If only Parents who love and cherish their children could relate naturally the facts of life to them as soon as they reach the use of reason many a child would be saved the abuse of pedophille's No child Ethan should be scared to tell their Mom or Grand Mom's what is happening to them outside the house/home: He threatened you with kindness telling you it was healthy what he was doing to you: Sicko: I did not know how to defend myself: None of us did at that age we were at the mercy of our abusers: They had the power over us: So Ethan That is why I am asking you to read and take ownership of all the loving, supporting, encourageing words of Darlene to you in her Comment: You'll be a fine and even maybe a president some day: I am AMAZING The architect of my own destiny: Beautiful: Both inside and out: Dynamic: Ever changing and ever growing: Intuitive Looking within for answers: Loveable Exactly as I am: Unique And Unrepeatable: Get my message to you Ethan: Think Positive: Act Positive: Be Positive in all you do and say about yourrself: Have a healthy MIND in a HEALTHY BODY; this means Ethan getting out there with your friends, fellow students or like-minded people your own age and gender taking part in TEAM sports and sporting and cultural activities: You'll benefit grately if you do: You'll make natural and real friends for life: Ethan You'll be a winner Remember I am the Architect of my own LIFE's Destiny: I can: I will: I must because I am worth it:

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