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Child Abuse Story From Emme

by Emme
(USA)




No One Ever Listened: 
I was born and raised in a little town in Mississippi, where a Good beating was heartily accepted and encouraged. My brother Nikki and I were the children of the town drunk and the dregs of society in the eyes of the mommies. We could hear them whispering things like: "That's the same dress she's worn for a year" and "That poor boy has another black eye" or the favorite, "Someone should help those poor kids." They had no idea, the pain and the suffering that we suffered in our little shack of a house on the edge of the bayou.

I was the little maid, cleaning and cooking and such. There is a photograph of me when I was 4 years old, in a dirty, shapeless, ragged dress that had one sleeve ripped off, holding a broom and sweeping the porch. There were clear welts on my exposed shoulder. My brother was the little handyman, fixing everything he could with his tiny little 7-year-old hands. Anything that was not done correctly warranted a good beating with a belt.

I remember those times that I escaped a beating, and lay in our bed, hearing the snap of the belt and my brother's screams. If there was a chore incomplete, I was beaten. But there was another punishment for me. If I did not clean certain things, like if I didn't clean his room, then this punishment was enforced. I would get down on my knees and have his penis shoved in my mouth. I would cry and cry and cry and he'd laugh. My brother once told me to bite down as hard as I could, and I did. He screamed and threw me off and beat me so bad that he split my tailbone, broke my nose, cracked a rib, and left angry welts all over my body. I never did that again, I just stayed stationary. I knew that I was being hurt, but it was all I knew, so I never questioned.

Then there was the "8 rounder". I shudder to think of it. It was the most brutal beating I ever had, though it occurred many times.

Nikki was getting older and hated to see and hear my pain. I hated to see and hear his, but I was so helpless. But by the time he was 13 and I was 10, the "8 rounder" was falling upon him mostly as he covered up as much of mine as possible, while my other punishments escalated to a punishment for him, too. We tried our best to comfort one another by cuddling close and telling how much we loved each other.

When I was 14, Nikki decided not to come home right after school. I received the immediate beating while the rest was saved for later. When he got home, he marched him right down to the basement where I lay, sobbing and bleeding. He roughly tied Nikki to the chair and said "If you're not man enough to take the punishment, then maybe you're man enough to watch someone else." Nikki bucked and screamed for him to beat him, that I did nothing wrong. I tried to crawl away, but his hand caught me by the hair and dragged me to the whippin' pole. He tied me there, as I cried and cried, and said, "This is not me beating you, little bitch. This is the bastard over there." Nikki screeched once more, begging and pleading. "Don't hurt Emme! Please don't hurt her!" still echoes through my mind. I could hear him sliding off that strap, that awful strap, and I heard it whistle through the air. As it landed on my back it felt like fire, but I held back my scream. He hit again. I finally screamed at the last one in the succession. As he continued to hit, I continued to scream, and Nikki continued to scream. Finally, after what seemed like eternity, he dropped the belt and untied me. I slumped to the ground, my bloody back screaming. "You Bastard!" my brother screamed. He smiled an evil smile. "And I'm not even close to done." He took off his jeans and underwear. He spread my legs and dug into me. I screamed in agony as Nikki screamed. After a few thrusts he was finished, so he untied Nikki and left for the bar after locking us down there. Nikki rushed to my side and held me in his arms. I cried and cried and we cried together. He told me that he was gonna kill him, but I told him no. He was our father! Nikki yelled at me to stop being so stupid, which reduced me to tears. He held me tight and stroked my head, shushing me and promising everything would be fine. Of course I wasn't. I could not walk without help for 3 days after that, and then this punishment seemed to become regularity. I would be beat and raped and my brother was forced to watch. This continued until my father's mysterious death 4 years later. There was a usual go through the motions when my father was found, shot in the head, suicide style. I think he killed himself...but I wonder if it was revenge for all those times...



I am happy to say that though my past was rough to say the least, I am happily pregnant with my second child. I am not married. I get sperm donations from one man and I have the ability to experience the joy of motherhood without any fear for my children. Nikki is also not married, but adopted one boy from an abusive home much like ours. We live exactly right next door to each other and raise our children together, and we have NEVER ONCE RAISED A HAND TO THOSE CHILDREN. And they are the best children in our town.

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Child Abuse Story From Emme

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Oct 19, 2008
Madness...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Emme, there are no words to adequately reflect the outrage over what you and Nikki endured at the hands of a clearly deranged man.

As for "no one ever listening", based on the quotes you included in your story, they listened all right; they just put the blinders on, made it none of their business. They were enablers, Emme, because they chose to NOT act when the evidence of abuse was so obvious.

I do hope you and your brother are in some form of counselling to help you through all the terrible residual of both witnessing and physically experiencing inhumane treatment. The best help you can provide your brother is to model "healing" behaviour and healthy choices. You cannot help him unless he wants the help. But if he sees you doing well, he may consider your choices for himself. Just be there as a listener (NOT as an advisor; resist that urge) for him if and when he wants to talk. The rest really is up to him. This is his path; you have yours.

Emme, you have posted several times on my site, including as comments in other threads. Validation, support and encouragement are very important to the various contributors on this site. And doing so may also be cathartic for you. I must tell you though that my Ask Darlene page has been suspended because I no longer have time to dedicate to answering questions. The decision I made was to help create balance in my life and to work on other projects. I'm sure you understand. Also, the comments section of individual questions that are currently pages tied into my Ask Darlene segment are reserved for the person who originally wrote me. I have therefore deleted the comment (query) you left on the How can I get justice? page. Again, I trust you understand and respect my position.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Emme. I'll post your story of healing in the next few days.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Oct 19, 2008
So many crimes committed...
by: Francine

My dear Emme, what your sadistic so-called father did to you and your beloved brother was VERY PATHETIC AND EXTREMELY UNGRATEFUL!!!!!!! I am sorry that you didn't have a good father...my dad, too, is very ballistic and abusive, minus the raping of course And I, for one, understand how you feel when you talked about that humiliating photograph of yourself as a "4-yr-old slave sweeping the porch". When your father couldn't get anymore attention from you guys that he had always craved for, he BRUTALLY raped you and forced your brother to watch helplessly...Emme, he was truly evil and sadistic and downright malicious! As for those who, as you quoted, "wouldn't even care or listen", they all let you down and they let you down CRIMINALLY!!!! Even your mom failed you and she should've been there for you. BTW, your so-called father was wrong...you are not a bitch; your brother is not a bastard; both of you did nothing wrong and both of you are very smart and articulate and downright worthwhile. I am delighted that both of you are in a safe place now...too bad your father died "mysteriously" cuz he should've been in jail for the rest of his miserable life and for all the terrible crimes that he willingly committed against you and Nikki. To make a long cooment short, I hope that both of you try counselling and I wish you, your brother, and even your baby (and second baby) and your brother's adopted son all the best.

Oct 20, 2008
Jesus is the healer
by: Anonymous

Emme please read Beauty for Ashes by Joyce Meyer. It will change your life forever.

Oct 23, 2008
Angry in Alabama!!!
by: Linda

Emme, your story of such hideous abuse made me so angry. What rocks do these so-called fathers crawl out from under? Your abuser was totally insane and I hope he is burning in hell now. That is where he belongs. You were blessed to have a loving brother, to stand by you . I'm glad you have each other. I don't know where your mom is in this story. But my guess is, she is as bad as him for letting him treat you like that.I'm a christian and God has helped me with my healing and I will pray for you and your brother for your healing.

Oct 25, 2008
To all those who have shown such support:
by: Emme

I give my deepest thanks to all who have commented. I feel that some of you had a question about my mother, And the answer is that she ran off with another man as soon as I was no longer breastfed. I know this because she has contacted me not too long after I had posted my story here and she apologised. I have chosen to forgive and forget, she had no idea. But that is where she was in those crucial moments in my life. But other than this clarification, I wanted to tell everyone who has suffered and still remains supportive and kind that we are not alone and that your support has helped strengthen me and brought peace to my days. Utmost thanks and love,
Emme

Nov 09, 2008
Thank you
by: Dawnn

I was abused also, and even though im not ready to share my story yet, your story gave me some kind of hope in truely moving on. Im 39 and quite often depressed. I have issues, but i try to let the go. I hope that someday i can have the strength to face my demons.

Dec 06, 2008
From Paul in Ottawa Canada
by: Canadian Survivor

Dear Emme,

What you and Nikki went through was just terrible and terrorfying.

I was visualizing as I was reading and could imagine the pain, the fear and the shame you both must have felt.

Reading your story brought back memories and feelings I had when I watched or heard my dad (also the town drunk) slap my mom around. I wanted to end him but I was too little and too afraid.

Your dad was not only deeply sick, but a sadistic criminal.

I was lucky. The cops took my old man away when I was 14 before he killed one of us. Two years later, he committed suicide.

In my case, I was able to find peace by understanding that my parents were mentally ill and sick with alcoholism.

May you find the peace, the healing and the love you both so richly deserve Emme.

We who have been abused and survived are marching hand in hand, each in our own way, in our own time, on our Marathon of Hope, doing our part to tell the World, enough is enough...

Dec 30, 2008
i am so sorry
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that

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