Child Abuse Story From Emily

by Emily
(Alberta, Canada)

I grew up with a violent father and a violent older sister. There is a sense of entitlement; they thought they had the right to hurt me. They minimized their violent actions or denied them.

My father and older sister got their sense of 'power' and 'strength' from attacking me (and others who were weaker); yet both are cowards; easily intimidated by someone they perceive as powerful. They can be toadying and they suck up to people they think are stronger and more powerful than themselves....and justify it by saying, "I am just being civil"...then attack someone weaker.

The victim of abuse ends up being the drug that abusive people need in order to feel strong....and it is frightening how much they promise and how 'nice' they can be to get the victim back so they can hurt them just one more time. I don't think my father and sister saw me as a human being...I was an object for them to use.

I've heard all the theories...they don't know how to relate properly, they were abused as children (my dad did hurt my sister too...but then began to direct the abuse at me)...the theories didn't help me...knowing 'why' didn't help me heal…what helped me heal was saying, 'no more'.

When you can say "No" to your first abusers...then you can say no to other people who think they can abuse you too.

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