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Child Abuse Story From El

by Elmarie
(South Africa Rustenburg North West)

Children should be treasured and kept safe

Children should be treasured and kept safe

I thought a daddy was there to protect you and to keep you safe. Unlike mine. I was molested by my daddy for 5 to 6 years. Mommy knew, but was told that if she told she would be killed. He always wanted us to bath with him. We had to sit on his lap while he was sitting on the edge of the bath tub. He never penetrated, only rubbed himself against me. But it did hurt. Sometimes he would have me sit with him and then he would play with me with his finger. I hated it. I only found out later he was molesting my older sister also. He used to hit us so bad, then Mommy had to lie to the school and tell them we fell out of the tree or whatever she could think of.

In 1996, my sister and I were in a child protection school, and that is when our teacher found out about Daddy molesting us. The school made a court case against him, which we had to attend. It was very bad and hurting.

Daddy was sent to jail for 8 years.

It still hurts till this day.

I am busy writing a book and want to publish it at the end of 2008 in order to help kids that were or are still being molested. Don't ever think what happened is your fault. You have done nothing wrong.

For all you out there, it is never too late to stop child abuse. If you are being abused, speak up and let the world hear you. It can make a difference.

Love,
El

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Jan 22, 2008
 So brave
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I am delighted to learn that your molesting father went to prison for the crimes he committed against you and your sister, El. It was so brave of you and your sister to testify against him. He doesn't deserve to be a free man. And he certainly doesn't deserve to ever be allowed around children again.

As for your mother, she should have kept you and your sister safe. She should have stopped the abuse from continuing. It shouldn't have mattered that her life was threatened if she went to the authorities; she should have found a way, EVEN if it meant losing her daughters to the system. Because THAT'S what mothers are supposed to do for their children. They are supposed to keep them safe from harm, NO MATTER WHAT.

It's good that you're writing a book of your experiences, El. Writing can be therapeutic. And it sounds as though you've decided to turn pain into power by deciding to help other abused children. I commend you for that.

I also urge you to seek out some form of counselling for the hurts you are still feeling today. I don't know what the system in South Africa has available for you, but if there is a way for you to obtain some kind of government sponsored therapy, take it. You're worth it, El, you really are.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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