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Child Abuse Story From Dustin

by Dustin
(USA)




I'm not very sure why I'm writing this. I just really need an outlet. I've been through a lot of torment in my life and I don't really know who to talk to. I was just recently put in a foster home and my father was put in jail for child abuse and murder. My father had killed my mom when I was ten. I hadn't seen him kill my mom, but I had seen my mother's dead body. My father had forced me to carry my mother into the kitchen. He told me to slice her wrists with a butcher knife, but I wouldn't. My older brother who was fourteen at the time slit her wrists. Then, my dad called the cops. The cops came in and left after a few hours of doing almost nothing. I had been trying not to cry the whole time. I had never been a crier.

My father had been abusing me, my brothers and sister ever since I can remember. Everyone one of my siblings reacted dramatically to the torture of living with my father. My sister (Age 4) became shy and quiet. My brother (Age 6) became impulsive, mean, and angry. My brother (Age 17) became depressed, quiet and sullen. I'm overprotective of my younger sister and I feel my younger brother is too rough with her. I'm not sure how my older brother feels. He is very hard to read. I suppose I'm most overprotective of my sister and my older brother is most overprotective of all of us.

My older brother was always protective of me. He always took a beating for me. He was always very brave. I always tried to take my younger siblings beatings when I felt they didn't deserve them. I remember it was only a year ago I was at the park with my little sister and I told her we had to go home. She began to cry and I asked what was the matter. She told me that "Daddy was going to beat her." I told her I'd take the beating for her. she began to be okay after that.

When I came home dad grabbed her by the arm. I told him I'd take her beating and he grabbed me instead. He took me down to the basement of which all of us affectionately called "The Torture Chamber". He leaned me over a piece of wood and tied my hands around a pole. He then proceded to cut my shirt off. I remember it was very cold in the basement. He then grabbed a whip and cracked it across my back. I bit back a cry and held back the tears. He told me he'd whip me around twenty-three time (Twenty for her beating and three for taking the beating.) He then began to whip me. When he was finished I was crying and my back was bleeding terribly. He grabbed me by the hair and asked me if I was crying. I told him I wasn't and he looked at me. He then told me I'd be whipped twelve more times (6 for cryinga nd 6 for lying.) After he was done whipping me I was fading in and out of conciousness. He untied me and I fell to the floor. He began to kick me and scream at me to get up. I remember throwing up and feeling pain in my stomach, chest and back before going unconcious.



This was only partially what happened at home. Dad also sexually abused us. He sexually abused my older brother the most and my little sister the second most. He would make us go days without food sometimes as punishment. Father had many different kinds up punishments and sometimes it was not knowing how you were going to be punished that was the scary part. It feels really good to get this all off my chest.

Now me and all of my siblings live in a foster home with loving parents and I'm hoping to start anew.




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Child Abuse Story From Dustin

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May 16, 2011
Dustin:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're father is where he should be. You and your siblings are where you all should be: in a loving home. Just to be clear, no one ever ever ever "deserves" a beating. Always remember that. I do hope you and your siblings are in some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of growing up in such a horrifically abusive environment. None of you deserved that kind of mistreatment; all of you deserve help for the fact that you endured such mistreatment. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


May 16, 2011
So many crimes committed
by: Anonymous

Dustin, you and your siblings were given a raw deal because your so-called dad was so twisted and messed up in his own ways of thinking that he didn't even know how to take care of himself, let a alone be a father to you guys. Oh, and he is a truly sadistic beast too...and you and your siblings deserved so much better than those barbaric beatings that you were forced to endure at the hands of that twisted sadist. Oh, and when he couldn't get what he craved from you, which is utter and complete submission, he brutally killed your mom and tried to force you guys to slice her...he was truly evil, sadistic and malicious...and I'm glad that you guys threw him into jail for all those sadistic crimes that he committed against you guys because you and your siblings (yes, and even your mom) did nothing wrong. You are not to blame for his sadistic behavior; he was to blame because he chose to abuse and torture you. You were the children; he was the adult; he had all the power and only misused it over you guys in one of the most vile ways. Oh, and I'm also glad that your foster parents are with you and your siblings now because they are so sweet for doing that; I just hope you guys will try counselling.

May 17, 2011
what went on behind closed doors in the name of Family
by: maurice

Oh Dustin, your brothers and sister what a horrid house to live in with as you all called the torture chamber: A beast of a man, An Animal, and much more: How on this living earth are such men born and exist still even to this day: Darlene truly one special qualified loving big hearted woman of love, truth, caring, respectful of each individual who writes his/her true story here on her get it off your chest safe haven site so your healing can begin: Dustin: I will never ever understand a big beast of an ignorant Adult doing what he did to you and your broethers and sister: You were all so brave to stand up for each other: The older ones for the younger especially your little sister: I am sure she received her share to at his beastly hands: How anyone who must have known the beast did not get the police is beyond my imagination: You are safe now: You are in a loving invironment: You can begin to live your life to the full: Hi Dustin take note of darlene's love and advice: Get some form of counselling: Grow in deeper love for each other as siblings even though the beatings and abuse effected each one of you in different ways; I am sure the inner strength ye had for each other will prevail and LOVE will be the winner between each of you: It is hard to imagine a beast of a Father tying your hands and then tearing off your shirt and whipping your innocent tender skin until you were unconscious: Mind boggling: Let it all out to a counsellor who will help ypur healing process: Always believe in yourself: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: You are the braves t of the brave: Thank you Darlene for being there with your site for Dusting to get some of his abuse stuff of his Chest: Thank You Dustin for having the courage

May 19, 2011
OMG
by: dana

it's been a while since i commented on these stories and i feel like i should've commented on a lot of them. i'm glad your dad's in jail, dustin. hopefully, he'll be there forever. this story, like all of the others, makes me so mad. i could write four paragraphs about this one, but ms. darlene wouldn't like what i had to say. i'm that mad. you're in my prayers.

May 19, 2011
where were the adults in your life???
by: My Two Cents

Like Dana wrote, it's been awhile since I commented. It was getting hard to know what to say.

Anyways, Dustin, the one frightening thing from what you wrote is the sheer violence you were exposed to. I do NOT and probably never will understand how it is that all the people in your life did not know this was going on.

Didn't relatives, friends (and their parents), doctors, teachers notice bruising, difficulty sitting on a sore bum, welts and scars on your arms, black eyes, sprained/broken limbs?

Did you walk around in a winter parka and ski pants 24/7? How could they not see???

You wrote the police came to the house. I have always been under the impression (mistaken?) that police would call child protection when they intervened in a house where minors are present, just so they can follow up and make sure kids not in danger...either they not do this or child welfare not follow up properly.

Hope you understand my little rant. I'm just so mad nobody helped you and you had to go through this along with your siblings. It not fair, not appropriate, and it's also so sad to read such a story. I'd like punishment for people who mandated (required) reporters of child abuse like teachers, teacher's aides, etc. Maybe if they face actual consequences, they'd take their responsibility seriously.

We see what happens as world continues, becomes 2012, 2013, etc...

Be well.

My Two Cents.

Sep 24, 2011
Strength
by: Bridget G

I'm so sorry 'bout you childhood 'cause you and your siblings had to put up with that psycho, son of a b***h, scumbag, of a father!
I'm glad the scum is behind bars.

And may your mother rest in peace! )):

Have a good life wit' your foster family and don't ever take s**t from anybody AGAIN!

Peace! <3

Oct 26, 2011
Just a thought.
by: Anonymous

First of all, I am so proud of you for being such a brave young person. I respect you more than anything, I swear. You and your siblings deserved so much better. You deserve a life with love and happiness, you really do. I can't imagine the pain you've gone through. I hope that your 'father' gets what he deserves. He'll pay for what he's done. He will. I hope that you know how amazing you are. The way I see it, we are all given tools. The tactics by which those tools are given are not always right, and not always just. But you choose to let them build you up, or break you down. Use the tools you've been given to build you up. Learn from this. You have seen everything that should NOT happen in a home. Use that to make sure that what SHOULD happen in a home, DOES happen in yours. You are wonderful, brave and amazing. Know that you and your siblings are loved. Love your siblings. And try to find happiness. I wish the best for you. Nothing but the best.

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