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Child Abuse Story From Doug

by Doug
(Florida, USA)




Probation: 
when i was an 11-year old boy three of my friends and i were busted for breaking into a feed mill and stealing some jack knives. we were sentenced to a year of probation, and i was required to visit a probation officer once a month, and submit to home visits upon demand. the probation officer took an immediate interest in me that later in life i came to recognize when i was mature enough to understand it. he would pull the shades in his office and lock the door when i appeared for my monthly visit. i came to dread these monthly visits, and as the appointed time would approach, my fear would rise and overshadow any other thoughts or considerations. after my "visit" was over, i would feel incredible relief. however, after several months, the probation officer decided to exercise his right to perform home visits. he happened to show up when my mother was away from home. i quickly learned to keep an eye out for his car, so i could disappear when he turned up. the only trouble with this method of evasion was that i became so nervous and hinky that i was never at rest anymore. i had to keep my eye out for this guy at all times, and i still was required to make my monthly visits to his office once a month. i did not feel that my accusations would do any good against an officer of the court, and as it was, in this small town i was seen as a trouble maker and ne'er do well. many years later, when i heard of his death, i did a little dance of delight.




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Oct 08, 2011
Doug:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I can only imagine the anxiety you felt. How trapped you were. This pedophile took advantage of his position of authority. It wouldn't surprise me if that's why he got into this line of work to begin with; it gave him a target rich environment with boys who were in a highly vulnerable position. And it was highly unlikely that you were his only victim. He counted on you keeping the secret, knowing that your credibility was non-existent. And I certainly understand your delight at learning of his death. In a sense, his death represents the closing of a chapter in your life. But I will also say that the chapter really isn't closed until you get the help you need in order to deal with the repercussions of what he did and the betrayal of trust and the fact that you were completely and utterly helpless given the circumstances. Please seek out some form of counselling to help you with these repercussions. You may even want to go further by reporting what he did. The statute of limitations may or may not have expired, depending where and when it happened. Other victims may well have come forward. And though justice can't be served to the man who did these crimes, the system should know that they had someone employed who was doing this to young boys. But first and foremost, take care of yourself and get the help you need, Doug. You didn't deserve to be abuse, no matter that you were on probation. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were abused. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


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