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Child Abuse Story From Doug

by Doug
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In 1968 I was sexually assaulted by a camp councilor at YMCA Camp Wanakita in the Halliburton's. Over 40 years I have suppressed this incident and the effect this pedophile had on my life.

Those were the worst 2 weeks I have ever experienced and have left a lifetime of scars. Today YMCA will barely recognize the incident as they want to sweep this under the cabin and forget it occurred. Somewhat like the Roman Catholic Church. I gave up on God and Christ for years as they were not there when I was a 10 year old boy. I am now back in the loving arms of Christ.

I am struggling with this today and have various therapists and groups who are helping me to overcome my feelings and loss. I have learned I didn't do anything wrong and am starting to forgive myself. I still have resentments against the YMCA and any Christian organization that protects pedophiles from prosecution and does not help these abused children to heal. It's not our fault!

I have a long road ahead of myself to work through these scars!

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach

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May 31, 2010

Doug:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

ABSOLUTELY, it's not your fault or the fault of any of the victims. As you might be aware, recently the Boy Scouts of America have been "outed" for the sexual crimes committed against boys by Scout leaders; perhaps it's time someone "out" all organizations who were in a position of trust, but instead, betrayed and harmed the youngest and most precious of society. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

May 31, 2010

out the school teachers as well
by: Scott 1

Yes I agree with you and sympathize with you Doug. I think there are many who need to be held accountable and that includes the teachers who stripped us of our clothing to assault us in public school, right in the classroom as it was done to me back ..or beat our bottoms until we were in some sort of state of unconsciousness in the teachers lounge

An apology would be nice...some recognition would be nice. I'm turning blue from holding my breath!

May 31, 2010

Too much is swept under the rug
by: Mike

There are too many groups and organizations that have people who take advantage of their positions and then don't get dealt with properly. As time goes by, more and more victims will come forward and at some point changes will have to be made. Hopefully that will be sooner than later.

Jun 01, 2010

Always believe in yourself: You are in a good place NOW
by: maurice

Many here on Darlene's Safe Place who have expressed their true and honest feelings in trust and confidence what happened through abuse all those years ago to them: Great Doug you have found HER safe Haven site too: She with us empatise with you in you still feeling the effects of what that Beast did to you in his trusted roll as Leader of the YMCA: He is one of thousands who moleseted, sexually abused, physically abused children and young people under his care: Great many of these organizations are being outed today and people named for what they did to the innocent and vunerable child/adolecent even young adult: Doug, like many and you I too lived in denial my life in contradiction not fully accepting what happened to me was abuse for years> Beaten on the bare bottom for years, humiliated in front of other's etc all supposed to be in the name of discipline: I assure you the effects of same linger on and on for long part of one's life: Thankfully the effects lessen by the year especially if one has been in counselling: You'll be fine too Doug, keep wanting to be rid of the effects of abuse: Let go too Doug, be active and alive with others having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Widen your circl of mates/friends so that conversations are wide and varied and not constantly on what happened me etc. You know what I am saying Doug: You'll find Darlene's comments most helpful should you get the time to raed them here on her site to others who found themselves like you abused as a child: She has the natural gift of personalizing each comment so her heart is truly expressed in her words to each one: Doug you become the captain of your life, Think positive: Act positive: Be Positive in all you do and say about yourself: Look in the mirror and see the great big hulk of a guy looking out at you and say good things about yourself to yourself: The me person in the mirror is highly intelligent in his own right honour that guy and live your life to the full each day you jump out of bed: Oh yes doug important you jump out of bed instead of just rolling out of it: Don't do yourself a personal injury though while doing it: Ok, Doug get on with your life and take note with darlene we all want what is the best for you NOW

Jul 06, 2010

Don't Blame Yourself
by: John

You are absolutely not at fault. Don't blame yourself. In the end, you will find that you are going to make it and be all right.

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