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Child Abuse Story From Dory

by Dory T.
(New South Wales, Australia)

I'm 16. Ever since I was a child I have had to deal with emotional and physical abuse from my brothers. My older brother is the worst of them all, and to make matter worse, he had ADHD, a bad temper, and my parents sent him to karate lessons since he was five.

I know a lot of you could be saying that it can't be that hard, but it is: having to watch what you say so you don't set them off and have them coming at you with a knife or any sharp object is scary. Being told that you're a loser, fat, a slut when you're none of these things can have a big impact when you go into high school.

I have had black eyes, been king-hit many times, been cut, strangled, hit, kicked, eyes poked, hit in the stomach and kicked in the head. The list goes on. Add to that, all the other emotional abuse, it gets hard and frightening. I don't have anyone I can really talk to about it, as no one understands. They all think I'm this really happy person, but I'm not. I used to cry myself to sleep every night before I got placed on medication for my depression.

My mum is a good parent, but she twists everything to suit her. She says, "You deserved it" and "You shouldn't have done it in the first place and they wouldn't have had to do it". This also affects the relationships with my friends, as they tell me stuff but I don't tell them. Sometimes I wish that my life was different and that I had a different life. I have even thought about suicide. But even then, I would still be in pain.

My music and being able to write my poetry and short stories have helped me a lot, but I still wish I had someone to vent to. I hope that others can be braver than me and tell their stories to someone who cares about them.

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May 31, 2008
Your mother is NOT right about the way you're being treated...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Dory, I doubt that very many people on this website would be saying "it can't be that hard," because most of the visitors of this site KNOW with absolute certainly that what you are dealing with is tremendously difficult and that it affects everything in your life. But more importantly, this is about you, Dory. It's about YOU and how YOU feel.

Your mother is not thinking clearly when she says what she says to you about the mistreatment you deal with at the hands of your brothers. It is NOT your fault. You DO NOT deserve to be physically and/or emotionally abused, either by your brothers, or by your parents—or anyone, for that matter. When your mother says those things to you, she is neglecting your needs. It is her job as your mother to keep you safe from harm. From what you've disclosed, the situation between you and your brothers is way beyond sibling rivalry. You need to be protected from your brothers.

I urge you to contact the Australian Kids Help Line at 1800 55 1800. KHL have counsellors who will listen to you and discuss your options. The service is available 24 hours a day for children, youth and young adults between the ages of 5 – 25. Their counselling services are free, confidential, and you can remain anonymous. Dory, you're worth getting this kind of help for yourself. I hope you do.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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