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Child Abuse Story From D.J

by D.J
(Detroit , Michigan, USA)

I haven't found an abuse story like mine yet. I was physically, emotionally, and mentally abused by my brother, emotionally and mentally by my mother.

My brother was hit by a car when he was 5. Through my mothers guilt, she allowed him to throw balls at me, whip me with ropes and sticks, tie me in my room for 8 hours at a time, punch me, drown me in the pool, pin me down on my bed or the couch, throw anything that was near him at me, burn or shoot anything I cared about (like my dolls, toys). The whole time he was treated like he was my father.

I was once getting whipped by a stick in the basement of my house by my brother, so I thought I would pull my pocket knife on him to get him to stop. He screamed when he saw it, and my mother ran to us and took away my knife. She let him continue.

He beat up my friends, cousins, neighbors, my father, mother, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, pick a person. He even fought the police. My mother just let it continue. My mother would slap the crap out of you if you told anyone at school, or called the police. I use to call her mafia queen - you know: you tell, you die.

I am now an adult, and my brother is still the same (not as violent as he was, but he still has his moments). He recently threw my mom and dad around, and they are 78 & 76 years old. My mom thinks the world of him and thinks nothing of her other 4 children. She gives him whatever he wants. He does nothing for anybody, and my mother gets mad if you don't serve him. She raised him thinking he is king of all, and if you think otherwise, he will beat you up. It has affected his whole life and mine.

The mental abuse is so thick in my family. My mother can't even communicate with me without mentally and emotionally abusing me.

I watched my brother beat my brother-in-law's head into a brick wall. He beat up my dad on 3 occasions. He threw his friend out of the tree fort everyday for fun. He beat my friends head into a steel door. He slammed my mom's fingers in the door, burned half her body, and threw her down the stairs. He fought with my other brother, and my other brother didn't seem to get hurt, but between the two of them, on several occasions, broke up the house fighting. He threw plates and chairs at my mom almost daily, kicked our family dog, strangled another friend, threw a steel-toed shoe into my nephew's face who was 10 (my brother was 30), just to name a few of things I have seen.

I am 8 years younger than my brother. I remember when I was 4 years old, I was called bastard so much I thought it was a word to greet someone. My dad came home from work and we were getting ready to go to my aunts for dinner and what not. I said, "Sure bastard." My dad freaked and left me home while everyone else went to the party without me. I stayed home alone. All this doesn't even touch everything that has happened to me.

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Child Abuse Story From D.J

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Sep 11, 2007
She reaped what she sowed
by: Darlene Barriere

D.J, your brother was truly evil. You, and others, took the brunt of his malicious behaviour. But what your mother did was reprehensible. She did not protect you. Protecting you was her duty as a loving parent. By virtue of her actions and inactions, she taught you that the only person who mattered was your brother, and that you didn't matter at all. You deserved so much better than what you were dealt.

Clearly, your mother is responsible for the violent person your brother turned into. From what you described, she has paid a physical price for her irresponsible neglect. Yes, she was neglectful to you and to your brother. The way she allowed your brother to behave was the most insidious form of neglect, because she taught him that his behaviour was appropriate and welcome. She sent him into the world a violent man. Now you are left with the residual of her criminal neglect.

The pain of both your brother's and your mother's abuse must be overwhelming. Perhaps someone who is reading your story will be able to relate, and then write their own supportive comments. Either way, I sincerely hope you are able to talk to someone about what happened to you, D.J. Someone who can help you sort out the feelings of betrayal. You're worth it.

Sep 11, 2007
So Traumatic
by: Steph

It sounds like a very traumatic upbringing. I wonder how you have dealt with it as an adult? It is amazing that a parent can just look the other way or actually enable abuse. That can be devastating for a vulnerable child. Remember not to repeat that behavior or allow it in your own adult life.

Sep 11, 2007
I feel Your Pain
by: Francine

I'm sorry what your brother and your mother did to you. You know, D.J., my brother did the same thing to me as yours did, while my mom did the same to me as yours did to you. You deserve a better life. When you'll see your mother (if she's still alive), why don't you tell her that what she did to you hurts you so much and that she needs to love and protect you and not enjoy that pain that your brother inflicted upon her. As for your brother, he should be sent to jail (so should your mom), otherwise, mental institution. I will pray for you every night from now on, D.J. Peace.

Sep 12, 2007
horryifying
by: cinna

i am only 14 and am doing a project on abuse, this was awful, i really feel for you dj.

Sep 13, 2007
I know how you feel
by: brian Hill

D.J i know how it feels to be beaten by a older sibling my brother used to beat me all the time he molested from when i was 4 up until i was about 8 knowbody did anything about it for along time i could not figure out why he was doing it and i still dont as i am 19 years old now the signs were all there but nobody looked closely enough to realize what he was going on what your brother did to you was wrong nobody deserves what we went through its just a shame that theres people out there like that well i hope you read my story good by and godbless you.

Sep 13, 2007
Thank You!
by: Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your story. That took a lot of bravery and courage. I pray that life is much better for you. Jesus loves you!!

Sep 16, 2007
never!!
by: natasha

i have never heard at story like that either that must have been so hard for you. i think if i was you i would have been long gone from there. your strong and a better person then him x

Sep 18, 2007
How could they???
by: Anonymous

that is really sad did u ever forgive them, how could you it would be really hard 4 me

Oct 19, 2007
How Mean! 0_o
by: Francine

That is so mean that your mother wouldn't save you from your brother. If I were your mother, then I'd protect you from your brother and then call the police on him! /you are not a bastard, you are smart and pretty; just don't ever let anyone think otherwise! The only stupidity I see comes from your brother and your mother. I think you might want to try some counselling.

Nov 16, 2007
I am a Chirstian
by: Anonymous

None of this is your fault... I'll Pray for you...

Jan 30, 2008
Lock Him Up!
by: Linda

Your brother is in dire need of some serious professional help. Don't blame yourself. Why is this brother not in a mental institution? He sounds like a sociopath.

Feb 11, 2008
a comment for your story
by: Tim

Your story is a truely difficult one to take in, well done for talking about it. At first, you could not really blame your bigger borther. Instead your parents abused your brother by teaching him to be anti-social and has clearly affected him throughout his life. Now he is an adult, he needs to release that this behaviour is not acceptable and he really needs help to sort this out. If he does not seek help than I feel that you should lose total contact with him.

I do hope that something helps you in this matter. All the best.

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