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Child Abuse Story From Desere

by Desere' Lynn
(Flint, Michigan)

The world starts again like a flower (taken by me)

The world starts again like a flower (taken by me)

When I was a little girl, my mom was married to my first step-dad. He was a really bad guy. I was about 3 1/2 when he started to come into my room at night when I would be over there. I had no clue what was going on. I remember him saying to "drop your pants." I was scared, but I did because I knew he could get very angry quickly. He was always yelling and swearing at us. That first night, he touched me and from then on it got to be more as I got older. I was only around him for 3 years. Sometimes he would hit me and my mom.

One time, I was eating with my little sister. He came out and started yelling and told me to take my thumb out of my mouth. Then he hit me in the face. It left bruises and scratches on my face. My mom never believed me, and still thinks I only imagined it. I know I didn't.

As I got older, I only saw my mom and her new husband 2-4 times a year, until I moved in with her. When I did, she called me and my sister and little brother names and swore at us. She would grab or hit my little brother. Then she would grab me and throw me onto my bed or something. I was always distressed and trying to protect my little brother because he was only 1-3 and he was mentally behind. I started to get very depressed.

I have learned that the past is the past, but it is never gone. Also forgiving is hard, but nothing will happen if you don't. Now I just got done with high school. I still have problems because of my mom and ex-stepdad.

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Child Abuse Story From Desere

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Sep 08, 2007
You are talented!
by: Darlene Barriere

The photo is lovely, Desere. Even though I've stated that I do not accept photos in this category, the quality of it is so good, the colour is so sharp and crisp that I decided it was too worthy NOT to post it with your story. The caption you included is perfect. Very poetic and profound.

And about your story, I strongly urge you to contact Child Help USA, Desere. They have professional counsellors on hand 24/7 who will listen to you. Right now, you need someone to listen to you.

You deserved to be believed when you told your mother what your step-dad did to you. You did not deserve to be treated the way your step-dad treated you, and you certainly did not deserve for your mother to tell you that you imagined it.

Before I finish my comments, I want you to know that you are a wonderful sister. You are filled with empathy and heart and compassion; that is evident in the way you tried to protect your little brother. I hope nothing but the best for you, dear.

Sep 08, 2007
To Forgive or Not To Forgive
by: Anonymous

Hi Desere

I am really sorry for all you have gone through.

I am a FIRM believer that we do not have to forgive our abusers. I believe it helps to let (at least some of) the anger go so we do not take it out on ourself and others who are important to us. But we do not have to let the abusers off the hook by forgiving them. In my opinion they do not deserve it.

Carole

Sep 08, 2007
I feel your pain
by: Francine

I Feel your pain, Desere, because I'm sorry about what your mom and your step-dad did to you. If you'd get to go to college, why don't you tell somebody about what your parents did to you? I'm also proud of you for trying to protect your little brother from your mother. It is also best if you told the counselor about it, and then the police, so that telling someone will save your life, like whenever I get hit or criticized, I always tell somebody what happened to me, and I think that you should do the same like I did.

Sep 09, 2007
soo sad
by: Anonymous

That is soo sad. im so sorry about what happened to you. It must be so upsetting. SO SORRY. xxx

Sep 13, 2007
thats sad
by: jerrica

thats so sad

Sep 14, 2007
it ok
by: hannah

that was sad but it ok iknow i was abused when i was little but got to go to dhs when i was five im 15 now

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