Child Abuse Story From Dee

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Child Abuse Story From Dee

by Deselvia
(Boise, Idaho, USA)

I was 8 years old when my dad started the abuse. I remember the way he smelled, beer on his breath. He touched me a little and told me that it was normal. By the time I was 10 it became a lot more then touching he put his thing in me. It was an everyday thing till I started my period. I couldn't wait to start my period every month after that. But then he got angry and started the beatings. When I was 15 I didn't care any more and told him no but that didn't help. I blocked out a lot of this so I don't remember much. I was 17 just a month away from 18 and I told my sister everything. We went to the cops and I was put in a group home till the day before my 18th birthday. My dad he only got 10 years the judge called it an eye for an eye. 10 years of my life so 10 years of his. I don't think the judge realized that it's affected the rest of my life. Since my dad went to prison his side of the family wanted nothing to do with me, my mom wanted nothing to do with me and for 2 years after all of that I fought to get my brother to see the truth. I left my home town when I was 18 and now I am 21 happy and have a new family, don't get me wrong I don't have kids but what I mean by new family is my girlfriend and her family brought me in and call me there own.

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Apr 02, 2011

Dee:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You were very courageous to tell and then to follow through with a court case against your sex offender. The fact that his family is standing behind him, at your expense, is not unusual. But that's THEIR problem, THEIR loss. I wouldn't want anything to do with THEM. As for the judge, he was limited in the number of years he could sentence; a life sentence was likely not available. I agree that most judges don't understand the lifetime effects of sexual abuse. I suspect he was trying to show you he took what happened to you into consideration. But in truth, even a life sentence would not take away what your father did to you. In other words, there is never any real justice, regardless of the outcome of a trial, much as we'd like to believe there is. The good thing about a conviction and time in prison is that he can't offend against another child while he's locked away. As for "chosen" families, we all need people in our lives who support and encourage us through good and bad times. I'm thrilled that you found a family that you can lean on. A family who can help you to see the goodness in yourself. A family where you can all band together for the benefit of each other. But even chosen families can't solve everyting; please consider seeking out some form of counselling in order to deal with the effects of being sexually abused by your father. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Apr 02, 2011

I'm glad you told
by: Anonymous

Dee, I'm glad that you told the cops on your so-called dad. However, shame on your family and even your mom for running away from you instead of protecting you from that beast of a father! They were supposed to protect you and they failed miserably. How dare they! Well, at least your so-called dad won't be able to abuse anymore children due to being locked up in prison because molesters and cowardly abusers don't stop until they're forced to stop. Oh, and I'm glad that your friend and her family are with you now because they are so sweet for doing that, I just hope that you try counselling.

Apr 03, 2011

Be Brave: Be strong. Be persevering in seeking what is the right way forward
by: maurice

Dee: read, read, over Darlene's comment: it will give you inner strength to get on with your life NOW and make a great future for yourself: (I am the most important person young woman) I will love myself because I know now what genuine and true love is after finding a true friend whose family LOVE and Cherish you as equal: Live well: Laugh alot LOVE much: Always beginning and ending with yourself: Dee: begin with your friend (s) Tday having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Dee you won't regret it: It will empower you naturally: you'll make real and natiural friends from among your team mates: you'll have a loving matural appreciation of your beautiful body; you'll have aqauiantances who will acknowledge you for your giftedness: Tallents; leadership qualities once you begin to share them on the playing fields: You are I hope in College so out there with your fellow students your own age and gender representing your college in B-Ball: Net Ball rugby, a team sport of your choice; hockey etc' You have a whole life ahead of you to be lived to the full each day: You were brave with the help of your sister to tell on that beast/animal: Forget the past: have a chat with a counsellor or therapist who'll help you put all that he did to you in perspective and help you to let go of the eefects it had on you: Past tense: Let GO Lyn: I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH IT:

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