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Child Abuse Story From Darrell

by Darrell
(Montana, USA)




I grew up in Columbia Falls, Montana in the sixties for the first thirteen years of my life. My mother was very young when she had her first child and came from a family where you just didnt talk about things. One thing we didnt have in our home was love. We had money, food, excellent clothing and a very nice home. Dad always worked very hard, so hard we only saw him when he was asleep on the couch, in a rage after one of us at the prompting of our mother or he was just plain drunk. Mom wasnt a patient person and beat me often. She would get so angry she would kick me down the 3 step back door landing and then down the 22 step basement stairway onto the cement floor below. This hurt so bad, I would lose conciousness and my head would buzz and I would find myself waking up under the stairs curled up in a ball. My little sister was allowed to lock my brother and I in our bedroom where we would have to stay all those hot summer days wondering why. One night my brother and I who had a room under my parents room in the basement, were restless and made noises. Dad came racing into the bedroom. Told us to strip and dragged us into the garage naked where we spent the cold winter night trying to stay warm. We found one of dads old workshirts in a box. then we found an innertube for a grader tire a huge machine. We curled up together to stay warm and the most insulting and humilating thing happened in the morning. The garbage man opened the garage door to get the garbage and just stood there staring at my brother and I who were naked and cold. He left the garbage, closed the door and left. Then the door between the house and the garage opened and Mom and Dad stood there laughing because they thought it was funny that we found something to keep warm in and were curled up together. These type of occurances went on for years. Funny thing was we had a policeman that lived just two houses down. Today i still have problems with women.




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Child Abuse Story From Darrell

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Apr 28, 2010
Darrell:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. Please consider some form of counselling to help you deal with the repercussions of coming from such a horrible environment. Although I can understand your anger and hostility toward women given what you grew up with, don't make the mistake of blaming all that happened in your life on your mother. Your father carries just as much responsibility. A counsellor may be able to help you understand that, and then help you move forward in your life.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Apr 29, 2010
A willing enabler for a father...and a vicious beater for a mother
by: Anonymous

Darrell, what those brutes for parents did to you and your brother is very pathetic and ungrateful because they are really twisted, sick, sadistic and cruel in their own ways of thinking. They certainly didn't deserve to have such wonderful sons like you guys, but most of all, you guys certainly didn't deserve to have sick, uncaring, twisted, uncaring, cruel, sadistic, ruthless parents. Oh, and even making jokes about humiliating you and your brother after the garbage man left the garage with you in it really shows me how uneducated and ignorant your "parents" really are and they really need to go to prison for all those terrible crimes that they subjected you guys to because you guys did nothing wrong; in fact, you guys were the children, they were the adults. They had all the power and they only misused it. I am really sorry that you guys didn't have good parents and I hope that you try counselling.

Apr 29, 2010
Don't give up on yourself or Your Brother: Be winners together NOW
by: maurice

Darrell, your story is horrific, especially all that your so called parents did to you and your brother. Either of you did not deserve such humiliation, such treatment, such abuse, especially by the two people who should have loved and cherished you being their children: You have arrived at a safe place, a safe house, a family of friends and people who can only love and cherish you admittingly from a distance. But genuine human love can be understood even from a distance: Darlene's site is that safe place for you and hopefully your brother to make new beginnings in your lives: up and out of the morass of your abuse: Darlene has given you encouraging and loving words to begin with: Don't give up, Don't Quit, you may feel you are at a very low ebb in your life because of what those very sicko's of individual did to you and your brother. They were not real parents, the were cruel, sadistic, animalistic in the way they treated you: putting you naked in to that Garrage to keep warm: Not bothering about the garbage man seeing you shivering and in such condition: out and out sick individuals: You be brave, You be strong, you be a winner over that horrific abuse' you have good people around you and hopefully your brother and yourself are close: together get counselling, oh yes, Darlene knows the best way forward for you both: she came from an abused place into living a life now that is empowering while she empowers others like you and me and all her visitors; She has benefitted so many to think new beiginnings: away from the effects of abuse: she's proved there is life after ABUSE: Always believe in yourself: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Oh yes I believe that is a good way forward too. Get out and about mixing with like-minded people in your own age group being active and alive in sporting and cultural disciplines of activities: Making you feel good in mind and body. Don't get lazy on me now: Or more so yourself for that matter: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: Because I am WORTH it. Darrell, you'll be fine if you follow Darlene's advice and LOVE for you in the words she expressed from her woman's heart to you.

Apr 29, 2010
Such a sad story. Am very sorry
by: Anonymous

darriel u and your brother are such a wounderful kind in this world, any parents would wish they had the sons like your parent did but your parents misused you gusy and did such a horrible things to u and your brother. someday i wish your parents can go to jail and rot in hell until they are dead. i hate your parents and i never wish to had those types of parents you guys did. i i was a mother and you guys were my kid i always make sure that i show you and your brother some respect and kindness but most of all i will always make sure that i show you gusy all my love i got of your both. am really sorry to hear you story and i hope that you and you brother can make a better living than your heartless and wickness parents. i love both you and your brother very much. hope i helped to cheer you guys up. ALL MY LOVE: YOUR KINDNESS MOTHER
P.S I AM ONLY 14 YEARS OLD BUT I WILL BE 15 IN MAY 27TH BUT IF I WAS AN ADULT I WILL ALWAYS HELP U GUYS.

Apr 30, 2010
Your Love Shines Through
by: Darrell

First I must say that hearing your words of encouragement has given me great hope. The years of abuse were hard and the question always in the back of my mind even today is "Why" I do try to look at the positive in life. I have grown through so many experiences. One thing I cannot seem to get through is the self sabatage. I will go allong for a period of time and things seem to go well. I have been through to marriages. the first abandoned me and the kids. I worked hard to treat her like a lady and did everything I possibly could to show her love, but I suffered as I had such a hard time maintaining this. She left for another. The last one was seeing someone for over a year. I found out by waking up one morning to her screaming that she wanted a divorce. Well the divorce is over and I didnt fight it. I just didnt have it in me too do that. I lost everything and now I am alone again. I hate these failures it takes me back to all those years of hearing the only name I knew as a child. My brother and I were called, dumb, stupid, fathead, morons, ittiots. I hate when I see children in pain. I have tried to be there for people all my life since those days, but somehow I just cant seem to get ahaid and keep ahaid. Today this day, I am divorced and recently unemployed. When does it get better? How do I get out of this cycle that I know is as a result of the abuse as a child. Thankyou friends and especially Darlene Barriere of whom I have great respect for. best regards Darrell :-)

Jul 06, 2010
I'm sorry
by: John

I'm sorry they hurt you like they did. Believe me when I say you will find peace once you deal with this.

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