Child Abuse Story From Danielle

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Child Abuse Story From Danielle

by Danielle
(Tennessee, USA)

When I was 11 I was molested by my older couson who was 15 at the time. It started with him putting his hands on my privates. He would put his hands in my bathing suit in our uncles pool. I hated myself for not saying anything. I was a troubled child, my dad wasn't around so I got in trouble alot. I didn't think anyone would believe me so I didn't tell. I started lying and stealing. I just wanted my parents to pay attention to me and realize that there was something wrong. My mother and I never really got along and my father wasn't around. I hated my father for not protecting me from him. I felt like it was his job to watch over me and keep me safe and I felt like he didn't. I'm 23 years old and I have never told either one of my parents. I'm afraid that their perception of me will change. I used to cut myself because it took away from the mental and emotional pain. It has been 6 years since I last cut myself. I still have flashbacks and nightmares. Sometimes I hear or see something and it triggers them and I go into a depression and I shut down. I contemplate suicide so the pain will stop. I pray and ask GOD to help me. Right now I'm in a good place, no nightmares or flashbacks for awhile now.This is the first time that I am sharing all of the details of what happened to me and the aftermath. I hope that my story can help someone else in a similar situation. I'm in college to be a Social Worker. I hope to be able to help those who are less fortunate than me. I want to be the voice for those who can't/won't speak for themselves.

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Jan 13, 2012

Danielle:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

First, allow me to congratulate you on putting an end to the cutting. It was one of the most self-loving things you could have done for your Self. Second, your parents were responsible for ensuring your safety. The BOTH failed you, and they set you up for other forms of abuse. When daughters do not get their needs met from their fathers, they are at a much greater risk for abuse from men as they get older, in part because they are always seeking in a man what they didn't get from their fathers. Your father set you up for sexual abuse, and so did your mother. They made you so fearful that you didn't feel safe enough to tell them. Third, it's highly likely that your cousin is still sexually abusing little girls. Consider reporting what he did to you; doing so may well save another little girl from the fate you suffered. And last, what's important now, Danielle, is that you seek out the help you need now. Please look into some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with all that you endured as a child. Your college may well have some counselling services available to you. The fact that you're going into social work is very noble. Your experiences could well help others who are going through something similar, but only when you your Self are walking the path of healing and recovery. I send you love, light and positive energy, Danielle. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jan 28, 2012

Me too
by: Anonymous

Most of what you said happened to me too and I feel the exact same way. I cried while reading your story because I can remember what happened. He touched my private parts and I didn't know what to do. I'm 16 years old and I'm scared. It doesn't happen to me anymore but who do I talk to? What do I do? I can keep it in but It hurts too much.

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