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Child Abuse Story From Dan Part 2

by Dan
(Wisconsin, USA)

I am now an adult, and have never told this to anyone. Most of my childhood abuse I blame on my parents. (See Part 1 of Dan's child abuse story on this site.) This story takes place from the time I was 6 through my 12th year.

My parents used only two babysitters. One was Karen, a neighbor girl who was 6 years older than me. The other was Stacy, my parents' friends' daughter, who was 3 years older than me. Whenever my parents went out, it was always to a family wedding, which involved having an all-day sitter. The sitter was to make lunch, supper and give me my bath. I didn't think too much about the baths, until I turned 10. Why couldn't I give myself a bath? My parents insisted that the sitter do it.

Stacy was 15. I was 12. She would fill the bathtub, have me get in, and she would wash me with soap and her bare hands. She would insist on drying me off. She would never have my pj's in the bathroom or laid out. She would have me stand there naked while she went through my dresser, looking for them.

Once, Stacy asked my parents if her friend could come over while she was sitting for me. My parents didn't care. That night I couldn't believe that Stacy let her friend watch her give me a bath. Here I was, two girls looking at me naked. My parents never thought anything of this. They thought Stacy was the greatest.

Most of my abuse was that I was exposed in front of babysitters, cousins, aunts, uncles, and my parents' friends. It was like they didn't care what I thought. To this day, I still wonder what they were thinking. Sometimes now, I have nightmares about my past.

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Child Abuse Story From Dan Part 2

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Jan 31, 2008
Nightmares...it's no wonder!
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your parents set you up for sexual abuse at the hands of Stacy and her friend. And it WAS sexual abuse, Dan. Your parents thoughtlessly and stupidly had you expose yourself in the name of discipline in front of anyone who was around to watch. Stacy knew that, and she used it when she babysat you. Then she misused her power as your babysitter; she put you through the same humiliation of being made to stand naked in front of her. And if that wasn't bad enough, she further misused her power by inviting a friend to watch while she and this friend yet again humiliated you for their own personal gratification. And your parents couldn't have cared less.

Dan, I couldn't agree with you more: WHAT were they thinking! Shame on them! They didn't deserve to have you as their precious child. They should have gone to prison for inflicting such sadistic punishment onto you. They should have cherished you. They should have taught you right from wrong using firm but respectful discipline. But they didn't, Dan, they didn't; and because they didn't, you are now dealing with the residual: nightmares, even as a 57-year-old.

You need help to sort through the emotional trauma that the inhumane discipline has left you with. As I stated in my comments to your first story, I strongly urge you to seek out some form of therapy. It would be one of the most loving things you could do for yourself, Dan. It really would.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 31, 2008
WOW!!!
by: LaSeanda

I am so sorry that you had to go through that. No one should ever do that to their children. I am so sorry. I am 16 and still go through dreams of my baby brother being murdered. He was really sick and my mom's b/f at the time was watching us and he couldn't take Kiefer crying all the time so he punched him in the stomach repeadetly and then THREW him up against the wall. He still kills me. I keep thinking thay maybe if I was there then I could have saved him. He was 15 months old. And very premature. he 2lbs and 6 oz. It was a terrible thing. I am so sorry that you went through that. xoxo LaSeanda

Jan 31, 2008
0_o
by: Francine

OMG Stacy is such a pervert! I'm so sorry!

Feb 04, 2008
Sorry about your pain.
by: Nyla

I just have to say I am sorry about what happened to you,it's appalling to me,shocking and absolutely horrendous.
Children have a right to be loved and protected,your rights were violated,something which you could not controll.I'm sorry you had the misfortune to be born into such an enviroment.It's not suppose to be this way,You deserved love and kindness and respect.My heart goes out to you.

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