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Child Abuse Story From Courtney G

by Courtney G
(Holiday, Florida, USA)




My Life: 
I was the middle child in the family. I lived with my dad in Haverhill with his girlfriend Shannon and her two kids and my big sister. I was about 3 years old. Every time I showed any affection to my dad around Shannon, she would pull me by my hair and beat me upstairs in the spare bedroom. She would smack me and hit me till I cried. She said if I told my dad that she beat me, I would be dead. I was the only one in the house that was beaten and abused.

I always got in trouble for thing's I didn't do. My big sister was always rude to me. She used to punch me and hurt me and tried to suffocate me under my blanket. I tried asking her why she did it to me, but she would just yell at me.

My mom drank a lot and popped pills (her medication). She worked at a restaurant somewhere in Andover. She got home late and always fought with my stepdad. They would argue about their friend's son, about him giving my mom AIDS or something. They always invited creepy guys over to smoke pot.

Every morning I never wanted to get up out of bed, and my mom would beat me with a brush on my head or back when I wined. Those brushes always broke. I had welt marks on my back. She always felt bad afterward and tried to hug me, but I was afraid to go by her, and then she'd get mad again.

When I lived in Lawrence, I had a best friend. One time, I spent the night out at her house. Her dad was drunk. He touched me in places that I wasn't comfortable with. He pulled my panties down and tried touching me. He was doing it to my best friend, his daughter, too. I was only 6 or 7 at the time, in first grade. I didn't know what to do or what to think, so I let him do it. After that, I didn't wanna tell my mom or anyone at all.

About 5 years passed. I was 10 or 11, and living with my little sister, my mom and stepdad. My big sister had moved down to Florida with my real father. I was kind of happy. We lived in the ghetto part of downtown Haverhill, where there were shootings and cops. We lived in a one-bedroom apartment. We girls slept in the same queen-sized bed, my stepdad slept on the couch. I didn't get beat as much.



Then we moved upstairs to the 3rd floor and got a two-bedroom apartment. Everything was going good, until me and my stepdad got into arguments. I felt threatened by him. I was scared he would hit me because he was always drunk and high.

One day, I was crying because I wasn't feeling well. My mom beat me in the head with her fist. It was the first time in a whole long while. I was sick with MONO and hadn't gone to school in 3 week's. My mom didn't bother to call the school and tell them I wasn't going to be at there for a while. She made me get out of bed. Even though I was sick and dizzy and ready to pass out, she made me clean the house because DSS (Department of Social Services) was coming. The social worker said if I missed any more days of school, me and my sister would be taken away.

I wanted to move down to Florida with my dad, so he came to pick me up. When I first moved down, I met a really great friend named Ashley B (see Ashley B's story) Her mom didn't like me at all. She said if Ashley hung out with me, she would've gotten pregnant. I was so sad because we weren't allowed to hang out.

Me and Ashley were always made fun of in sixth grade. Everyone would bully us and call us mean things like "SLUT," even though I could never get a boyfriend because I was so ugly. Sixth grade was the worst.

I'm still friends with Ashley to this day. I am now in eighth grade and I'm 13 years old, going to be 14 on Sunday, May 4, 2008.

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May 02, 2008
Sounds like you have a very caring father...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Courtney, I'm so glad you were able to get out of the terrible and toxic environment your mother and stepdad had created for you. You deserved so much better. It filled my heart with joy to learn that as soon as your father learned that you wanted to live with him, he made sure to get himself from Florida all the way to Massachusetts. THAT is the action of a truly loving dad; and I'm delighted that you have that in your life. You didn't say if your stepmom was still involved with your dad. I'm hoping that area of your life has also changed.

Sixth grade must have been miserable for you. It was hard enough adapting to a new environment, a new city, a new school; EVERYTHING was new and challenging beyond words. All kids want to fit in; you were no exception. I'm very sorry there weren't any adults around to ensure you were not bullied and harassed, Courtney. Bullying happens when there is a lack of combined efforts from teachers, administrators, parents, students and the entire community. Bullying is NOT something that every kid must live through; that's a MYTH. Having lived through the emotional trauma of being bullied yourself Courtney, I can only hope that you will never inflict that kind of pain onto someone. It's so good that you and Ashley had each other during such a difficult time. To be and feel all alone would have been even worse.

And just for the record, you are not ugly...deep down, I'm sure you know that. You are beautiful, inside and out.

One more thing, you couldn't have done anything about what your best friend's father did to you. You didn't LET him do anything. He had ALL the power. Don't ever blame yourself for his molesting ways. It wasn't your fault, and it will never be your fault.

If there is counselling available to you, I strongly urge you to take advantage of the opportunity. If you want to remain anonymous, consider Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you.

And Courtney, allow me to be among the first to wish you a very happy 14th birthday!

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

May 02, 2008
if you need someone to talk to....
by: Anonymous

I was reading your story and thank god your dad let you move back in with him hopefully your stepmom is no longer with him. I want to tell you good luck with everything, especially school. I'm a junior in highschool and my life hasnt been the greatest for me either but keep your head high no matter what people say know that your better than they are! You are beautiful no matter what!

***Email address removed by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster***


May 02, 2008
To Anonymous regarding leaving your email address:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Anonymous, you'll note I removed your email address from your comments to Courtney. I ask that you observe the rules about leaving ANY personal information in comments. While I understand and admire your desire to offer one-on-one support to Courtney, due to safety concerns, personal information in comments is STRICTLY prohibited and could lead to being banned from leaving comments on this site. I thank you for your understanding.

May 07, 2008
im with you girl
by: Anonymous

sometimes my dad will beat me. he hits me a lot. but you should know that no matter what you are perfest the way you are and your mom may be able to beat you, but she cant take your spirit. keep in mind that you are loved by your family...and by Jesus

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