Child Abuse Story From Clarissa

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Child Abuse Story From Clarissa

by Clarissa
(California, USA)

Thank you Ms. Darlene B:
Just found your website, and looking forward to ordering and reading your book. Something within, prompted me to look up the effects of child abuse. In doing so, I found your page. I don't know if I will ever be whole and healthy, but I am going to once again try. The memories of dad always slapping me in the face, makes me numb...the disgrace that I always felt when mother would demand that I remove all but my bra and panties before hitting me with her handful of freshly picked tree branches. She would always proclaim, "I'm going to whip you 'till I'm tired"...I really don't miss her at all.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach

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Nov 13, 2011

Clarissa:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When we're compelled to get more information about anything I see it as the Universe answering a call. In this case, it was a call for healing to begin. Knowing it wasn't you, that it wasn't your fault is a wonderful place to start that healing, to start walking along that path of healing and recovery. I'm so sorry you endured such humiliation and pain on so many levels at the hands of both your parents. I can understand you not missing your mother. I can understand that more than most. And there is no shame in that. She brutalized and humiliated you in the name of discipline, or something else that is far more sinister. As a young girl, I learned things about my mother that were deeply disturbing, things that made me realize she was using her children to fulfill her own sexual fantasies, re-enacting in discipline of her children what she saw and read about in her pornographic magazines. It made me sick to my stomach. And later in life I came to realize how mentally sick she really was...and that's when I couldn't hate her any longer. I also realized that hating her left ME in pain. It left ME living my life in hostility and anger all the time. Everything changed for me me when I no longer hated, when I forgave her. Make no mistake, forgiveness does not say that what your abuser did to you was okay. It says I will no longer be controlled by the anger. That's when the anger and hostility let me go, Clarissa. I hope the same for you. I also know that each of us is in a different place with our healing, and that we all need to respect that place. I do hope you're in some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of the abuse. You deserve that kind of help. Thank YOU, Clarissa, for sharing your story with my visitors and me. And I hope my book will help you in some significant way.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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