Child Abuse Story From Claire For My Daughter
by Claire
my abuse was not actually upon me but on my 3 year old daughter.last christmas well oct actually i started my search fo a temp xmas job which i,ve done every year for about 10 years to get xmas money for my 6 kids.though my husband works were in debt and only just manage to cover the bills,and also i love to make a fuss of the kids at xmas as they don,t get toy,s etc through the year (except on birthdays!)as obviously if you buy for 1 you buy for all so at xmas i work flat out for approx 2-3 months and spend it all on the kid,s,leave my job just before and have a fab time.last year was no different except i left finding a job quite late so decided to work full time to make sure i got enough money for the presents.i found a local job 40 hours per week the only prob was childcare my husband works shifts so he,s on day,s night,s and it changes day,s also.so i decided to contact a local childminder that i saw at the school who i knew to say hello to and she said yes fine she,d have the younger ones while my eldest daughter sorted herself out as she was old enough,i read her crb details for her and her husband it was all perfect showed previous kids she d looked after etc so was happy to leave my kid,s there.unfortunately crb checks are,t done on her kid,s she had a 14 year old boy and a 9 year old girl.turns out from my innocent 3 years old daughters mouth that this lad had been removing her knicker,s and sexually assaulting her.obviosly i was devastated as was the rest of the family .i reported it to the police immediately and to cut a long story short he,s now a registered sex offender for 2 years and the childminders struck off.he,d actually also tried to do it to my 10&8 year old daughters but they were old enough to move awawy as he was very subtle,because of my 3 year old speaking up it was also found it he,d been doin it to an 8 year old very timid little girl.it makes my blood run cold to think what would have happened if my daughter hadn,t spoken up.we let her be interviewed by social services and once that was over it wasn,t mentoined in front of her again as were hoping she,ll forget about it(though she has mentioned it a few times)so nearly a year on thinks have settleddown my daughter seems happy after lots of love and attention from the rest of the faamily though i,m on a high dose of antidepressants and can,t bear to leave her with any1 and my husband can,t even talk about it it makes him sick.but now this means my christmas income has stopped i have no way of making money as i,ll never leave her with a childminder again or my other kids and they eould,nt want to so the little f***er not only nearly ruined our lives he,s ruined our xmas s as were now in oct i,m worrying o much about it i can,t eat.i,ve joined all work from home job,s etc but they,re all a scam i,m ebayin like crazy to selling anythin and everything i can get my hands on but it does,nt make much and is so time consuming with 6 kids i,ll never be able to devote enough time to it to make a good profit.i rang a sexual abuse injury place to see if i could get compensation for loss of earning,s which they said was not possible,and i asked if i could get compensation for my daughter for when she,s 18 but because she didn,t suffer any physical injury ther,s nothing they can do there either,they did say if when she,s older she has mental anguise from it then she could claim but as were hopin it will be a memeory that fades and seems to be(she,s not mentioned it for about 6 months)she won,t suffer any fingers crossed a million timesso am sat here typing this just thinking i need a good vent as we kept it quiet because we didn,t want any1 to mention it when she,s older i sort of feel like he,s protected but were only doing it for our daughter,thanks for reading just goes to show you can,t trust anyone....  Note from Darlene: If I have not left a comment on your story, please understand that it is not personal; it's just that my hectic schedule no longer permits me to do so.I hope you'll follow me on:  Email addresses, phone numbers, home addresses AND website/blog URLs in submissions and visitor comments are STRICTLY prohibited. Please don't include them, as they will be removed.
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