Child Abuse Story From Cheryl

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Child Abuse Story From Cheryl

by Cheryl
(Location Undisclosed)

I was 90 pounds at three, left with a disturbed older brother who hit me in the head...
My parents were see no evil hear no evil. My brother was brutal to me and being 10 years older, much stronger. My gift was my high IQ. My parents made me feel so sorry for them- wow was them that survived the depression.
My mother was intrusive sexually and emotionally all my life, even today as I am a physician in my 40's. I have had two marriages and raised a child on my own. My husbands were neglectful or put me down in ways. I was brought up to be nice to men, and it did not matter if a man was nice to me.

The scars are there. I am proud how I raised my child and gave him love, support and anything he needed. My life had so much potential and yet I always felt responsible for making my parents happy. They had each other. Who takes care of me - myself. I pray that I will meet a partner who will value me, treat me with respect, appreciate me and let me live.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach

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Jul 07, 2011

Cheryl:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

In order for a partner to treat you with respect and value you, you must first value and respect your Self. I know that sounds cliche. And I also know that many people believe they DO value and respect themselves; but when I look deeper, I see that that often isn't so. I see that often times, the same dysfunctional messages that were received in childhood are the same messages taken into adulthood. But those messages CAN be re-written, they CAN be replaced with healthy ones. When we see that we are choosing someone based on a set of values that are not values at all, when we acknowledge that our choices lack the self-respect we deserve, only then are we ready to make changes for our own betterment. You did an excellent job raising your son, teaching him values, supporting him, giving him what he needed. It's time you do the same for your Self—self-love, Cheryl, self-love. I'll leave you with this quote: Treat yourself with dignity and respect...And you will choose a partner who treats you with dignity and respect.~Darlene Barriere. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jul 07, 2011

yeah you did do good so why past haunt you i dont know read this comment
by: Anonymous

you know whats funny i found so far when i get upset when my best friend high school became a doctor not just a doctor but a anothropology degree masters degree ok and in our high school they used to make bets who be most successful me or her she became a doctor i became everything i could do pleas parents government aa degree an art an class off an on inbetween jobs to my mom wanted me to do or dad i did please as you say thats what i became an then a mom only sucessful job i feel i did an no not due to my or thier education so i understand you completely i seen picture of her she looks bad an old not to be mean i dont our ages but life is wierd isnt it

here the thing no education no family can caterize you other than this you were a single mom is that it divorced or dad messed up mean
any single parent tell you its so tuff
forget the parent thing who cares i bet you more successful than they are i bet you are school job the hardest thing in my entire life an any adult who ever i talk to doctors laymen white collar or blue say being a single parent the hardes job on earth it is so dont you dare blame yourself
what to do no answer i got none from professionals nothng what i think i did same as you raised a kid loved them same as you so you did good great in fact remember this ok
i whish i had that old friend degree i dont but now days who knows what sucess is
i thik you know you say it your kid so just dont worry anymore about the past its you new generations of us educated non educated but a parent so you did great i hope you place wieght on man who has in commone with you things that s where you need to go an guess what sucessful men right you a doctor you got alot in common with smart men not dumb ones you are lucky think in reverse serously you lucky

Jul 07, 2011

Such Horror
by: Anonymous

Cheryl, I can't believe that your parents would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick monster of a brother, relinquish all their control to him and even allow him to beat and berate you everyday...how dare they! Shame on them for running away from you all the time instead of protecting you from that sadistic beast of a brother! Their job was to protect you from harm and they failed you miserably. If that beast of a brother didn't want to be there, then he should've had the courage to leave instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that he and your parents and even your husbands choice was and still is inexcusable. I can relate; my brother used to beat the crap out of me and my parents rarely protected me at all. Anyway, you are not to blame for his sadistic, ignorant behavior nor your parents' uncaring behavior; they are all to blame because they chose to abuse you. They (especially that sicko of a brother) had all the power and only misused it over you, so please tell someone you really trust and try counselling. Oh, and please look into reporting your beast of a brother to prison.

Jul 08, 2011

Let Today be the New Beginnings with renewed determination
by: maurice

Cheryl: One woman's heart to another with the advantage of Darlene's wisdomed, learning and professional attributes for you in all she wrote in her comment to you: This will be new-beginings for you at 40: Get out there living your life to the full: I sincerely hope you have women around your own age among your collegues of since your school/college days: Look in the mirror can you see the ME (woman of 40) Darlene asked you to be: Treat yourself with dignity and respect: Then you will choose a partner who treats you with dignity and respect: For you Cheryl: empowering words for you to think about: You have one very special Child (only) we are special I was too of a single mom: You sure were a good mother to him, cherishing and loving him, giving him values to live by, safegaurding him from abuse: I hope you were able to relate with him heart to heart: Made him value and respect his own worth, dignity and sexuality: Now you have a life to live: You are a qualified and professional woman (intelligent) Yet, that's fine but it did not help you to answer WHO AM I ?
when I was a child I thought as a child: am I still thinking as a child in my adulthood. ?? real question Cheryl: take back the power you felt you were not allowed to have as a child: Parent's who did not love and cherish you in completeness: Make you appreciated as their beautiful highly intelligent child: You succeeded, it was your giftedness now use it to understand Darlene's words to you from her heart: Mr right is still out there for you:

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