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Child Abuse Story From Charlotte4

by Charlotte
(Location Undisclosed)




When i was growing up i had one brother and seven sisters. All of them except for me had been exposed to the physical abuse of my mothers second husband. I was born only a year after my mothers third marriage, to my father. As it turns out this was not a blessing but a curse in the way that I recieved the blunt of his emotional, sexual, and physical abuse. There are countless events that help to explain how my father was abusive but here are just a few examples:

My father worked in a buisness he owned makinmg him his own boss. This caused him to work early in the morning and late into the nights. So when he was woken up at a time inconvienuent to him he would show how that made him feel. Like the time I came downstairs to pee in the middle of the night. I was only 4 or 5 and weighed 50 pounds. When I went to walk out of the bathroom trying to be as quiet as posible, but obviously not quiet enoughf, I found a very angry dad waiting with his leather belt. The one with the 4 inch long CHEVY metal sighn. He took the belt and wrapped it around my neck and pulled it tight, without saying a word. After he lifted me off the ground and hung me for a few minutes I blacked out.

I like to think this scene is the last that went threw his mind when he was hanging himself only 8 years later, when i was 12.

His physical abuse was not nearly the worst of it i would have had to say his words hert at much as daggers, until he molested me when i was 6 and i knew what real pain was.


Not litteral pain but the pain of being ashamed to look in the mirror, or say my name out loud. I was too scared to tell anyone about it because he made threats to do it to my other sisters, so I kept my mouth shut. I could never alow that to happen to anyone.

My fathers abuse stands out more in my mind, but my mothers neglect was what finally caused me to crack after my fathers suicide. Having been left at home starving for weeks i fainally decided to get help. i went to my school councelor only two years after my fathers death when my mother's alcoholism had reached it's peak and her mixers of pain killers and muscle relaxers had caused her to have several seizers.

When i went to the school councelor I was not taken sceriously. After the fact that i was not going to get help and i would be stuck in the hellish mess and squaller i was living in for the next 4 years i lost hop. That was the first time i tryed to commit scuicid.

I am proud to say now that i was not sucesful(OBVIOUSLY!) and i never turned to alcohol of drugs, which is more that i can say about all 8 of my siblings who have all passed by either overdose, or suiced.




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Child Abuse Story From Charlotte4

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Apr 18, 2010
Charlotte:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are indeed a very strong person. Stay on the path of healing and recovery. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Apr 20, 2010
Your Story will give Hope to Many: Brave woman that you are.
by: maurice

I could not but feel abhorrence at your Father hanging you by his belt at 4 years of age. Beast of a man that is all he was. All the abuse he did to you. You are one very strong person/woman. you stayed sain to the level that you did not go the way of your siblings well step-sisters/step-brothers really if I am reading your story correctly. It does not matter for their lives were ruined to such a dispair that they died trough suicide. Charlotte 4, Your story will give hope to many. Your sharing ever so openly, honestly, truthfully your abuse life. There was inner believe and strength coming through the lines as I read them. Always believe in yourself, I am in charge of my life NOW. Live well, laugh alot, Love much. I can, I will, I must, I am WORTH IT. Please talk with a counsellor, you will be doing yourself a power of good. Darlene knows what is best at this time for you. Read her Comment, don't just read it, act on it. I believe you too know NOW how to live your life to the full each day you wake up, Look in the mirror, Speak gently and kindly to that beautiful and wonderful me looking out at you. Say positive things about yourself and your body. I am instead I am not, I have a beautiful etc, etc, Not I don't like this and that about myself. Your acceptance of yourself NOW after all you have worked through Charlotte 4. will build up your self esteeem. Your story was horrendous but the hope you were giving me, Darlene and many of her visitors in the positive attitude you had about yourself was huge. Always believe in yourself. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. stay away from the negative stuff that won't allow you to have a healthy mind in a healthy body. I am certain you know what I mean.

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