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Child Abuse Story From Cassie

by Cassie
(Austin, Texas, USA)




I was abused from long as I can remember as a child. My father was always a violent raging alcoholic, yet never actually hit me. That all changed when I was 5.

He went from yelling at me and locking me in closets, to beating me on a daily basis. If he couldn't find something I did wrong, he would simply make something up. I also suffered an injury when I was 5 as a result of being in a car with him when he was drunk. Due to this I have limited use of my right side and left arm to this day.

I was about 8 when he began sexually abusing me. One night, he insisted that he would give me a bath instead of my mother. She was far too afraid to argue with him, so she didn't really make a big deal about it. I, on the other hand, didn't want him seeing me bare. Due to the trauma I had endured, I almost never spoke, but when he told me he was going to bathe me I simply said, "Mommy." He then told me if I fought him he'd "cripple me the rest of the way." I cried as he touched me and fondled my genitals.

After that, he would give me a bath and touch me almost every night. My mother knew something was wrong. Usually, when he was not there, I was happy as any kid, even with a disability I was always happy when he left. I felt safe. But once he started to sexually abuse me, I was always depressed. I even turned cold against my mother. I knew she knew what was happening, and I hated her for not helping me. I wouldn't even look at her.



As time moved on, I became more angry and rebellious. I stopped caring if my father beat me. He'd call me "crip" due to my shaky slow way of walking, yet I ignored everyone's existence, even his. When he'd come into my bedroom and start to touch me, I would fight, kicking and biting him. As a result he would simply beat me into submission.

Then when I was 12, he went too far. He was angry because I had gotten a 93 percent on a test. That day, he punched me so hard in the stomach that my spleen ruptured. He panicked when I fell unconscious. He called 911. In the hospital after surgery to have my spleen removed, the doctor was shocked at the marks all over my body. A few days later, a lady from CPS came and questioned me. I spoke to her and told the truth to protect my mother. The cops soon arrived. He was sentenced to 56 years in prison for drugs and child abuse.

I now live with my mother in Texas, and life is pretty pleasant. Now I know I am safe.

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Jan 29, 2008
Glad you're safe
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your father should have been sent to prison long before for the way he injured you in the car while he was driving drunk. And then for him to tease you for the disability you were left with because of HIS neglect and drunken abuse...and then to be threatened with even MORE crippling injury if you didn't submit to him for sex...he's a monster that doesn't deserve to breathe the same air as the rest of the human race!

I agree with you about your mother. As afraid of him as she was, she was your mother; and as such, she should have protected you from him. She should have found a way to remove you from that physically, emotionally and sexually abusive environment. When a parent KNOWS their child is being sexually assaulted by the other parent and does nothing to stop it, that parent—your mother—enables the sexual abuse to continue and is every bit as guilty of child sexual abuse as the offending parent. Under the circumstances, she's very lucky to have escaped a prison term for not doing her job to keep you safe from a sexual predator.

I really am happy to hear that you are now safe. But even though you do feel safe, you must be dealing with a lot of emotional stuff, Cassie. As I do with just about all story contributors, I strongly urge you to seek out some form of counselling. It would be a great step in taking care of yourself; and you DESERVE to be well cared for.

As a side note: Although I'm delighted at the 56 years your father received, I am surprised at the length of this sentence. Even with a drug conviction tacked on, the longest sentence I've read about in the United States for child abuse (and this one was for felony child abuse, causing death) was 30 years. Perhaps the state of Texas issues stronger, lengthier prison terms for certain crimes.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 29, 2008
im just leaving a comment
by: Anonymous

seems like you had a bad life as a child!!!!!!
your story is sad because why would any parent....no, why would any one do that to any body? your father is such a bad person. as for your mother, i know you were scared of him and what not but she could of tried to stop him from hurting her little girl.

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Jan 29, 2008
Reply
by: Anonymous

Cassie thank God you made it because young girls in your position would had ended up pregnant,using drug,and basically being wild.Even though you are happy right now, you should reconsidered visiting your father in his cell because I have a feeling in the near future you probably would be wondering,"Why did my father treat me like that?" and will want the answer from your father and then it might be to late.He might be dead and you will never learn. So think about what I just wrote and God Bless You My Child. Hope all your prayer are answer

Jan 29, 2008
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by: Zoey Royal

Cassie, Im so sorry. If i were him i woulda done what u did. u are so amazing, and a good role model. u did the right thing.

Jan 29, 2008
In response to advice from "Reply"
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

In light of the comments below from Anonymous who titled her comments "Reply," I felt compelled to offer a reply of my own.

Cassie, I would NEVER recommend a confrontation with your abuser. Confrontations seldom, if ever, lead to the answers that victims are looking for. Indeed, most victims end up being re-victimized emotionally when they do confront, because their abusers either deny the abuse outright, or blame the victim for what the abuser doled out. And even if the abuser DOES provide an answer, it's never a good enough answer, because there are NO good answers as to why. Your father had perverse desires; I'd leave it at that.

If you do seriously consider this, Cassie, I can only say that you would be setting yourself up for more heartache and heartbreak.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 30, 2008
wow
by: Anonymous

that is really something he doesnt even no how he affected your life, just forget about him & try to move on he isnt even worth a taught in ur mind!

Feb 29, 2008
omg
by: Anonymous

this is crazzii how can people do this to they kids thats so messed up !! if u aiint gonna take care of your kids then dont make little babie so u can just abuse them !!

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