Child Abuse Story From Cassidy

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Child Abuse Story From Cassidy

by Cassidy
(USA)

My mom and dad split up so I went from house to house every week when one week my dad left to the store and my uncle watched me. He told me it was my fault that my mom and dad split and he started to hurt me. He used a knife a belt his fists and feet to hurt me along with his words saying "your worthless" and "no one cares about you" and other expressions. He eventually got into sexual abuse. And so on then I wasn't aloud to see my dad anymore because of a different reason. So I was with my mom and step-dad. I started to forget my uncle and father and started to make friends but then my neighbor started to touch me and try to get me to take off my clothes and I refused but they tried to make me or do it them selves. I eventually left and got into school. (yes I wasn't on school when all this happened) everything was ok till my dad started to try and take custody over me again. He called sent presents in the mail and tried to come to our house a few times. My mom and dad kept him away though and he started to fade away. I started to have trouble in school not turning in assignments, going to the principals office, and not listen to my teacher. I also got in trouble at home not listening to my parents, and being mean to my little brother. Why was I acting like this you ask. Well a few weeks earlier than this stuff started I found a pack of cigarettes in my moms coat pocket(my mom swore to never smoke and she doesn't like people who smoked)
So I got really confused and got distracted from school hung out with the populars and got mad at my parents. But after a few months everything calmed down and I was put in counciling. Two and a half years later my mom started drinking and my dad got mad that he couldn't drink because he was an achohalic. My mom started getting mad at my little brother for no reason and being the kind of person I am I stood up for him and took care of him told him it was okay. Sure I was the one who got grounded and yelled at and hit but my brother wasn't. Then my dad started to get mad at me because I would argue with my mom (because of my brother) and he started to abuse me call me names and give me the belt. My mom left to go to bars and my dad left just to get away. I was stuck at home doing the chores taking care of my brother doing homework cooking dinner and taking care of our dog and cat. I distanced myself from my friends and focused on my brother, me, and our home. My parents started arguing (I consider my step-dad my father) and getting in fights. my mother started crying more and more and I started talking less and less. My brother started having nightmares. My parents went to marriage classes they became a team and we became a family. Just when everything was good we fell apart and my step-dad started to belt my brother on the back (he was about 5 and I was about 10) I would stand in front of my brother to make sure he wasn't the one getting hurt and I was. Things stayed like this until my parents went into classes and changed their life around. Well one of them did my step-dad would hurt me behind my moms back. he does it less and less though. I am currently in 7th grade and am 12 years old. And my real dad is fighting for custody again my stepdad hurts me every once and a while. I take care of my brother still and maintaining about a B+ average in all of my classes. I am happy with my life because most of all the people around me love me and thats a lot more than what I started with. :)

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Oct 04, 2011

Cassidy:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's very difficult to be happy with your life when an adult whose job is to ensure your protected and kept from harm is doing the harming. It's equally difficult to be happy when you see someone you love, someone who can't protect himself, harmed. You're carrying a load that is difficult to carry for an adult, never mind a 12-year-old. You're a wonderful big sister to your little brother, Cassidy. You care about him; that's important. It shows me that you are a loving person, a person with compassion and heart. These are tremendous characters traits that you never want to let go of. But they are traits that shouldn't be exploited, either. You and your brother deserve to be in a home that doesn't include abuse. Please contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you and your brother are dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

You've made education a priority. That's fantastic. Your education will help you as you move through the various ages and stages of your life. I hope some of the people around you who love you are your friends. They are your support system. But you also need a support system made up of people who can actually make a difference to what's happening in your environment. It's good that your parents have sought marriage counselling, but you need some type of counselling to. Call the number above. You and your brother are worth it. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Oct 05, 2011

Your positive self esteem is amazing
by: Jill

Cassidy,
What a roller coaster ride your parents (all 3 of them & uncle) are on. You and your brother don't deserve to be on it.

Stand back, separate yourself from everything they are doing and see their BEHAVIOR. See through it all because they are "playing" a pretend parent game. None of them are actually being real parents. They are all sabotaging their success with broken promises to you and your brother and it's all abuse.

mom- alcohol, abandonment, broken promises.
step-dad - physical and emotional abuse, broken promises.
dad - shut down, abandonment, leaving you with his brother to sexually and emotionally abuse you, broken promises.

You are the only one who is acting mature. Picture yourself taking care of your brother and 3 or 4 three year olds who can come and go as they please, because that's where you're doing.

Your body is your own and no one else has the right to use it for anything. Treat yourself with dignity, don't use your body as a shield to protect your brother anymore. This type of fighting back just creates more abuse for you, and your brother witnesses it so he is actually being abused.

Be real with yourself about all this. An adult should never hit a child - ever!! They are avoiding taking responsibility for their feelings and using you as an outlet. Take your brother and report everything! You don't need to go back there. Both of you deserve to be treated with dignity so you can grow up in a safe, caring, home where everyone is treated as equal and takes personal responsibility for their actions.

Your positive self esteem is amazing. Use it to overcome your fear of being hurt by your step-dad or uncle when you tell your story. No more secrets will break the cycle of abuse in your life.

Get yourself and brother to a safe place. Do not be alone with your family, especially your stepfather and uncle. None of them are reliable. Your family will need to work their problems out themselves away from you without using you as their surrogate parent/scapegoat. They haven't earned the right to be your parents. You are an amazing person and you can make a difference in your life one step at a time.

Oct 07, 2011

The Horror
by: Anonymous

Cassidy, you were given a raw, crappy deal. Your parents and even your step-dad were so twisted in their own ways of thinking that they don't even know how to take care of themselves, not to mention be parents to you. Oh, and I can't believe that they would abandon you to the so-called care of that equally sick, sadistic monster of an uncle and allow him to beat, torture, offend and berate you 24/7...how dare they! the path that all of your abusers chose is inexcusable. Oh, and they're wrong. You are not unlovable; you are lovable...and I'm sure that there's a lot of caring people out there. You are not worthless; you are worthy of love, protection, dignity and respect, all of which you were sadistically denied of, so never believe any of those lies that those brutes (especially your so-called uncle and your stepdad) were spewing. You deserved so much better than what they did to you; they didn't deserve you in their lives. Oh, and none of that is your fault, never had been and never will be; you are not to blame for their sadistic, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse and offend you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you, so please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.

Oct 17, 2011

Sissy its ok
by: Anonymous

I love you And get better

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