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Child Abuse Story From Carrie

by Carrie
(Alabama, USA)




I was adopted when I was only three days old, when I was three my mother pulled me across a parking lot leaving huge cuts on my knees and she was called for child abuse but the police did nothing about i becUse they had no prove of this and I denied the abuse because I had no idea what was gojng on.....My mother never truly loved me when I was old enough to understand she told me that I was adopted and was not hers. I am fifteen years old now and a lot has changed. in eighth grade my best friend told me that my mom was not right.My mother ysed to scream and yell at me and call me worthless and say I was nothing. In seventh grade I was only a few min late to her car and on the way home she began hitting me and pulling my hair while driving and when I cried she would only laugh and say that i needed to stop crying becauze it was a sign of weakness. After my frined told me I knew I had to tell an adult and I couldnt tell my father because he only just protected her. i told my teachser about it my teacher did all she could but she said I would have to tell someone in my family and thats when i drew the line. During this i began to cut my wrists because it made the pain go away. My friend made me stop the cutting for a while but during the summer I got into a car wreck and my aunt is my chiropractor and my friend made me tell my aunt about my moms abuse. At first my aunt could do jothing I thought it would be the same as last time just having someone to talk to about my mother and father but it wasnt. My dad found out about everything and I told him I wanted my mother gone because she was hurting me but he couldnt let her go. i began cutting cutting again onowinv that it would be like all my Parents other fights when my mom would screAm and yell and my dad would just forgive her like what she did had no negative affect on me. I began having to live with my aunt and uncle because of the law and my counseler believed I shouldnt see my mother. i stopped the cutting because my aunt and uncle told me I couldnt stay If I countinued and I did not want to go back home. me and my aunt got really close and my dad finally sae how terrible my mother got it was gojng well until my dad started guilting me about not going home and ruining everyones life thats when I began to cut on my hips my friend told my aunt about the cuts and she always asks me about them and the other night she began to cry saying that she hated when I did it and I felt so terrible I felt as if I was ruining everyoned life just as my dad had said and I am beginning to now have severe suividal thoughts but never act in them. Life Isnt very easy anymore I dont feel like i ever got to be a real kid.






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Child Abuse Story From Carrie

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Nov 08, 2011
Carrie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're right, you've never had the opportunity to be a kid. Most of the adults in your life have let you down in one way or another. The teacher that told you you have to tell your family gave you the wrong information. It was her mandatory duty to report what you told her to the proper child protective authorities. The fact that she put the onus on you was inappropriate. She abandoned and betrayed you in much the same way the rest of your family did. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. The fact is, you can't change what happened, you can only control how YOU'RE going to respond. You can choose to live in a way that keeps getting you into more trouble, in a way that is self-destructive, or you can choose another path. A path that treats your Self with the dignity respect and love you feel as though you've never gotten. But you can't really believe that any longer because you actually DO have two people in your life who DO love you and care very deeply about you. Your father doesn't know what he's talking about when he guilts you into believing you're ruining the family. You're not. Period. End of story. He's stuck in his own childhood, using your youth and vulnerabilities against you. Choose NOT to believe the lies, because they ARE lies, Carrie. When you cut yourself, you treat your Self the way most everyone has. Change the pattern. Lean on your aunt and uncle to help you...they are trying their very best to give you a happy loving home. They can't erase the past, and neither can you. You can only embrace the present moment and treat each day as an opportunity to blossom even more into the beautiful person that you already are. You ARE loved, Carrie. Always remember that. Maybe you're not being shown love by the people you want to show you, but that doesn't make you any less lovable. Love your Self first. I know you can do it. Just believe it, because when you do, the cutting and other self-harm will stop, and then the rest will fall into place. You're worth it, Carrie. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Nov 09, 2011
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Carrie, I can't believe that your dad would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick, sadistic monster of a mother and allow her to beat and berate you 24/7...how dare he! She is a truly sadistic brute...and if she didn't want to be there, she should've had the courage to leave instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that she and your dad chose is inexcusable. Oh, and she is wrong. You are not "nothing"; you are a somebody, a person, a human being. You are not worthless; you are worthy of love, protection, dignity and respect, all of which you were sadistically denied of, so never believe any of those lies that she was spewing. Mothers who abuse their own daughters are one of the real abusers. Oh, and laughing at you for crying and then making jokes about beating on you/making you cry really shows me how uneducated and ignorant she really is; everybody cries. Your life shouldn't have been used as a pawn for her immature, sick, sadistic misery (she is miserable because she chose to be that way) as well as her uneducated, ignorant ugliness. She needs to go to prison for all those terrible crimes that she committed against you because you did nothing wrong. You are not to blame for her sadistic, immature, miserable, ignorant behavior; she is to blame because she chose to abuse you. You were the child; she was the adult; she had all the power and only misused it over you. I really hope that you are in a safe place now (maybe with your aunt and uncle), that you tell someone you really trust, that you try counselling, and that you look into reporting that sadistic beast of a mother. Oh, and say "no" to suicide (yes, even your aunt and uncle don't like that when you talk about doing so) because suicide is really a permanent solution to most temporary problems and doing so will only let that sad, tragic woman win, so don't do that.

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