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Child Abuse Story From Can

by Can
(Location Undisclosed)




Male hiding the truth for years: 
When I was 6 years old, one of my aunt's son, who was 14 years old at that time, had sex with me. And that went on until I am 10 years old. I was really aggressive in those years, I was having fight with other boys. It is because I knew that I had to be more powerful. I was so afraid to tell somebody. Actually I did not realise what was his purpose, because I had not got a clue about sex.

When I came to the age of 10, he took me the room again but at that night I was able to protect my self against him. I pushed him hard so he gave up, and thanks god that never happened again. Afterwards my aunt moved to another city which was far away from us and my family.

I had graduated from primary school and continue to high school. I got good grades and I was a good student. Thanks to my mom she always support us to continue our education. I saw my aunt and him until 17 years old once in a year. After that I haven't heard from them.

And finally I had gone to university and I had graduated 2 years ago. I had some degrees after that as well. I am quite successful compare to my family members. None of them as well-educated as me. I am a respectful person now, people like me because of that. They want their children like me. Having a good education. And my parents proud of me.

So I was quite happy until I saw him yesterday. It was because my aunt wanted to saw me, after a long time.She come back after a long time to visit her relatives so he does as well. She heard some rumours, something like I have changed a lot, finished university,be an adult. So after ten years she is really curious about me. Last time she saw me I was seventeenth. Anyway they came to our home. Luckily I wasn't at home at that time, and my father call me to see my aunt. And I had told my father I had got business to do. After that day, when they were leaving the city, my aunt call my father again to meet with them to see me. So I hadn't got anyother choice. My father insists me to see my aunt. And so he was there as well. I was thinking about punching or beating him. However that wouldn't be right thing to do. Cos I don't want my big secret known by other people. So I just said "hi", that's it. I don't want to let down my family. I don't wanna make them unhappy. Probably that guy didn't want to see me as well because of what he did.



Well today, I told my father, I don't want to see them again. However couldn't tell the truth. I just want to get rid of the pain inside me which makes me weak. What should I do? Should I tell the truth? Honestly I believe that won't work. Hopefully I can live with that. I love my family.

Lastly, thanks a lot for the website you made, that's really help people like me. I really appreciate that. I believe that can happen in everywhere. No matter what we are.

I hope everything will be getting better for the people who has same sufferings like me.



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Child Abuse Story From Can

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Jan 10, 2010
Can:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I must say to you, if you don't tell, this man will continue to abuse boys. He is likely STILL abusing boys. Sexual offenders to do not change their ways unless they are stopped. You have the opportunity to put an end to that by disclosing what happened to you. And don't EVER think that what happened to you was your fault; it wasn't your fault. And if your family doesn't understand that, they need to get more information about sexual child abuse.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jan 11, 2010
You must say
by: Anonymous

If you don't tell your family at least tell him what he did was wrong I finally stood up to my step father I wanted to see my little sister she was living with her dad my older sister told him what you did to me was me you do that to your own daughter and i can't go into detailes about what she said but it wasn't nice.My little sister wanted me to come visit her so I did with a friend,WE STOOD UP TO HIM,told him NO he never messed with me again.There is so much healing if you tell the one who did that to you,you will not take anymore.

From Darlene to my visitors: If you are an adult then there is more safety in confrontations like the one that Anonymous has commented on, but if anyone reading the above comment is a minor, always remember that there can be great risk to confronting an abuser. If you are a minor and are considering standing up to someone who has been abusive, I don't recommend it. The abuser could cause you harm. I speak from personal experience here. Instead, tell someone who can help you.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir



Jan 21, 2010
Can
by: Anonymous

It is really hard at first to come to the terms that I had been abused especially sexually.
My abuser is living in another city which is quite faraway.It takes aproximately 18 hours to go there.
I am thinking about talking with my abuser on the mobile phone. On the other hand, I can wait until he will come around here again.It will be better to talk face to face.
Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it.

From Darlene: For goodness sake, stop thinking about confronting this abuser and think instead about those that he is likely STILL abusing. REPORT HIM!

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