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Child Abuse Story From Caitie

by Caitlin
(Syracuse, New York, USA)

I'm a 14 year old girl. I think I'm being abused by my mother. I'm now a freshman in high school, and sometimes that's the only place I feel safe. I hate when report cards get sent home, because my grades aren't good. They are low, but I try very hard to get good grades.

I think my mom needs help. I think she's bi-polar. I told her that I think I might have ADD, (Attention Deficit Disorder) but she doesn't want to take me to get checked out. She says, "No, you're just lazy. There's nothing wrong with you." And my father doesn't do anything for me or my sister. I'm too scared to tell people what's gong on because I know that I'm gonna pay for it.

When my mother gets mad, she yells at me and hits me with anything. She's even used hangers because I wasn't done hanging my clothes up. She threw me on my bed and just started hitting me over and over again. She even tells me and my sister that she wishes she never had us. She uses vulgar language, calling us names like "bitch" and "whore" etc.

She gets mad when we start to like a boy or a boy starts to like us because she can't find a man for herself. Sometimes I just cry myself to sleep. She thinks that when she's yelling at me that I think it's all just a joke. She thinks that I'm not listening and that what she says doesn't hurt us. She's even thrown us against the wall. She always gives us dirty looks, and I'm honestly scared for my life and my sister's life and I don't know what to do!!!

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Mar 06, 2008
Emotional and physical abuse
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What you've described is emotional abuse Caitie. Your mother may also be inflicting physical abuse. But putting labels on what's happening to you isn't enough. Yes, your mother needs help, but more importantly, YOU need help and support. You've taken a huge step by writing your story for this site. Now it's time for the next step.

You really need to disclose what is happening to you, Caitie. Talk to a school counsellor, a teacher, an adult you trust, someone who can help you. I also urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if and when you decide to disclose the abuse your mother is inflicting on you and your sister. You really are worth the support, Caitie. You don't deserve to be living the way you are living. You shouldn't be in a life that means crying yourself to sleep. You and your sister deserve so much better. Please call Child Help so that you can start the process of helping yourself. You ARE strong enough to do that, I know you are.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Mar 06, 2008
It will be ok
by: Anonymous

Hi Caitie,
I have a similar past and reading your story brought it all back. I lived with it until I moved out for college, but that doesn't have to happen to you. You need to get help. Talk to your counselor at school, they can help you. I know you are scared of what will happen when you seek help but when you get older you will know that you did the right thing.

Mar 10, 2008
get help
by: Anonymous

please please please get help. i know you are scared what will happen if you get help but if u explain and tell them what goes on it will no longet happen by you not telling anyone that will only make it worse becasue she is getting away with it please tell someone......

Mar 14, 2008
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by: anyomous

i don't mean to be rude but you should seriously tell someone about this! It's wrong! people can fix this for you! it's your choice but honestly if home doesn't feel like a safe place then you shouldn't be in it, especially with someone like that. best of luck!

Mar 16, 2008
mothers should not compete with their daughters
by: Sienna

Don't let your mother get in the way of your mental health. I have severe ADD (I'm in the first percentile, meaning 99% of people pay better attention than me). You deserve a diagnosis rather than judgment. Your mother is competing with you. She's jealous of you when you achieve something rather than happy for you. I know this might sound redundant but you need to talk to someone soon. You're in serious danger if your own mother gets mad at you because a boy likes you. she shouldn't be jealous, she's your mother. I don't know what to say, just talk to SOMEONE please

Mar 20, 2008
RE: Caitlin
by: Chelsey

im so sorry about how your life is going right now. im going through something like that with my family except it only happens to me and not my younger brothers. im a junior and ive been treated like this since i could remember. my dad pretty much works everyday all day and my mom just sits and home everyday. im going to be graduating soon and im just praying for that day to finally come so i can get out of my house. i have friends and other family members that comfort me when i need it. it depends on where you live. if you live in a state where emancipation is legal then you can go through all these court deals and try to move out of your house with a more stable guardian. but if the state you live in says that its illegle like mine is then there's not really much you can do, unless your family is willing to let you live somewhere else. i hated hearing that there's nothing i can do it just feels like nobody cares or wants to help me. just hang in there. everything will get better i promise :)

much love.
XOXOXO

May 06, 2008
dont give up
by: jeremy walters

don't give up its gonna be ok. get help and tell someone. you deserve much better. we're all here for you.

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