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Child Abuse Story From Brittany1

by Brittany
(USA)




I am 15 years old.
And I have dealt with my dad for as long as I can remember.
I don't know if you can count what he has done as abuse.
But it emotionally drains me,
and messes with my relationships with other people.
At school I can't pay attention.
My friends complain because I wonder when they are talking to me.
My worse memory
I remember...
When I was 5 or 6,
I was running,
I can't remember why.
All I remember is running to my room.
I remember hearing my dad coming,
stomping,
behind me.
I ran to my room, scared.
My sister was in there playing and decided she was scared and hid with me.
I was racing to find somewhere,
anywhere,
to hide from him.
But before I could do anything he was in my room.
He stopped at the door.
I followed his eyes.
He searched for me.
I was hiding behind my bed next to the window.
My dad came over to me,
bent down to my level,
and was screaming,
baring his teeth,
I was watching his teeth crush together,
the spit flying out of his mouth toward me.
I can't remember what he was saying,
I don't think I heard it when he was saying it.
He then decided screaming wasn't enough.
He bounced my head off of his.
My head hit the window.
The glass didn't break,
but it was enough to make me fall to the ground.
I don't remember anything else.
I guess I was too young.
But my dad is 6'4.
At the time he weighed over 200 lbs.
He worked out everyday.
That is my worse memory....
That isn't the only thing he has done.
But that's the one I will remember forever.

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Child Abuse Story From Brittany1

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Dec 27, 2008
TELL someone...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Brittany, the incident you described above is called terrorizing, which is a form of emotional abuse. Head butting you was physical abuse. Labels or not, and whether or not a person in authority would consider what happened to you as child abuse, it WAS abuse and you need help. Please tell someone you trust: a teacher, a school counsellor, the parent of a friend, someone who will help. Contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, but they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. You deserve this kind of help, Brittany. You DON'T deserve to be mistreated. Whatever rage your father is feeling, it is HIS problem, not yours. You haven't done anything to deserve to be treated so badly. Don't EVER believe it's your fault, because it isn't your fault. Call Child Help.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Dec 27, 2008
You will remember
by: Linda Settles

Dear Brittney,

I suspect there is more to the story than you are able to recount--and more to remember. Once we begin to talk about our memories, they sometimes seem to take on a life of their own, coming at us in dreams and flashbacks.

What you have told us in your post is good work on your part. For you to remember and articulate (and so clearly as well) about the abusive incident with your father--and yet it definately was abuse, tells me that you are consciously thinking about and analyzing the mistreatment you have suffered. Don't ever stop allowing yourself to remember, for those memories will eat away at you until you can express them, grieve them, and see yourself for the survivor you are today.

Fear is not our enemy, but our friend. It tells us that something in our environment is dangerous. But fear is something that should promote action, hon, and when we continue to live with it we will find ourself consumed by it.

So don't. Don't hold it in and don't keep it to yourself. Take Darlene's advice and call the number she gave you. Talk to someone who can help you put it into perspective. Talking can't hurt you or anyone else, but it CAN save you, and maybe your sister, from a life time of victimization.

Take care of yourself,Brittany1. Love, Linda

Dec 28, 2008
memories
by: touched2mysoul

You have done a good thing by coming on to this site... you have started a process of speaking... that can bring alot of scary things ... memories, suppressed feelings etc. If you have this memory im sure there are others... Darlene is right... call and talk with someone... you dont deserve to be treated badly by anyone...
Treat your self kindly... reach out to someone and tell... if they dont listen... tell someone else... keep telling... someone will hear you!
I wish you welll

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