Child Abuse Story From Britt

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Child Abuse Story From Britt

by Britt
(USA)

Emotional Abuse:
I don't suffer severe child abuse like so many people on this site, in fact I probably shouldn't even post this but...my father has emotionally abused me for as long as I can remember.

He tells me how much I don't deserve things like happiness. I'm like my mother; I have to say I never thought that was a big crime. He has always taken his anger out on me, for any small thing he will make it a big deal. It's started to get physical, likely because I'm older now, 13. He blames me for anything he can think of. He tells me I'm not a good kid. I believe him. I probably deserve this. He's now divorcing my mom. I know I'm a little old to believe this is my fault, but I do. But he's finally gone. I feel bad saying that I'm actually a little happier. I'm alone every day, but its better. I can't complain.

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Jul 12, 2009

Here, you have a right to "complain" and be heard...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Britt, emotional abuse leaves such deep scars. I too am happy that your father is now gone, because he can no longer continue to belittle and berate you.

You're conflicted about this being your fault, Britt, because you've come to believe the lies your father has told you. And they were lies. Your father needs help for the problems he has. He's taking out his problems on you, and in the process, he's feeding you lies about yourself. He's having problems with your mother, but instead of dealing with that, he's chosen to vent them on you. This is on HIM, Britt, not on you. You are precious and smart and deserving of love, dignity and respect. You are also deserving of happiness. Your father is just too mixed up to see that for himself right now.

The next time you find yourself telling yourself those same lies, question them and then reverse them. Tell yourself all the wonderful things you actually are; and then believe them because that is the real truth.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jul 13, 2009

I am beautiful, I am Special Now as I was then
by: maurice

Hiya Britt, reading your very genuine feelings after being emotionally abused by a Father who certainly did not LOVE you. No Father/Mother who does not love, nurture or nourish the beautifulness, the uniqueness, the giftedness, the individual qualities of their child is not fit to be called father or mother. Your Father did you a total injustice making you feel insignificant, miss nobody, Britt Darlene understands you and all you so honestly wrote. read her loving, supportive encouraging words to you. Get a big mirror and see the most wonderful girl/teenager/young adult woman looking back at you. Darlene wants as I do for you to think positive, act positive and be positive when you dwell on the lies your father wrongly instilled in your mind. Sorry for being a little vulgar please P away those negative thoughts/lies let them flow away so that they become so insignificant to you. I am the most gifted child ever born, everything is beautiful about me. purify your mind of those negative things your father put into it. I can, I will, I must, only for me. Hi let your friends who care about you make you feel loved and valued. I am sure you have a friend or two whom you trust with all your intimate stuff let them love and respect you while you build up your own self worth. I love me because there's only the one beautiful me in the whole world. Nobody can take that from me (EVER)

Jul 13, 2009

Stay Strong Britt.
by: Nikki S

Hi Britt;

Thanks for sharing your story.

I too have had emotional abuse and sometimes I wonder if those scars will go away, like the bruising from the physical abuse.

It takes time. I am so happy that you found Darlene, her site and the rest of us here. I too am new and I jut wanted to let you know, you should be heard no matter what.. abuse is abuse and letting it out is the first step to recoverying from it.

A good friend sent me this healing quote and I wanted to share it with you.

"When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. but when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak"

Your in my thoughts and sending you some healing energy

Nikki S

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