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Child Abuse Story From Briana

by Briana
(Toledo, Ohio, USA)




As I'm writing this right now I'm 17 years old. I really didn't understand why I felt the way I felt until I had to write a report on child abuse for school. What I found out was that my mom was emotionally abusing me to keep me home. She tells me I can't have friends. I can't do anything, but she says it's because of my daughter.

See, I'm a teen mother who spent all her life at home, where my mom said I belonged, on the exception of school, that is. She said I wasn't allowed to have friends or go anywhere. I was the reason why everything went wrong in our family. Everything was my fault, it always has been, it always will be, and there's nothing I can do about it. She blames me for my brother's grades, the way he acts, the reason why he won't do his chores. Sometimes I think that if I die everything would be fine. She would be happy. But then my daughter would grow up telling people that her grandma drove her mother to kill herself. Then I won't be able to watch her grow up, so I'll stay for her. I'll grow for her. I'll live for my daughter.

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Dec 09, 2008
You need help...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Briana, what's happening to you is not your fault. Your mother is troubled. Whatever is going on with her, you are NOT responsible for your brother or anything he does and does not do. You ARE responsible for yourself. You ARE responsible for your precious daughter. You made a mistake getting pregnant at such a young age; that fact does NOT make you responsible for everything that has gone wrong in your family. Don't believe that lie.

I empathize with you for your impossible situation. You are forced to stay at home because you are still a minor. You are dependent on your mother and the rest of your family because you now have a child and you don't have the means to support her by yourself. This makes you vulnerable to the verbal and emotional assaults, which ultimately exposes your daughter to the same.

I'm so proud of you for realizing the impact that any of your decisions will have on your daughter. As much pain as you are in—and I certainly hear the pain you are in—you understand that committing suicide would leave the scars on your daughter to bear; and that leaving her with that legacy is unacceptable. This shows me just how mature you really are. This shows me how loving and caring and nurturing you really are. This shows me that you are strong, possibly even beyond what you realize. Be proud of yourself for all this, Briana; you own it.

You are going through such a difficult time. You need help. Talk to a school counsellor for some resources for you and your daughter. Contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. Both you and your daughter deserve to get some help.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Dec 09, 2008
Troubled family
by: Francine

Briana, you and your mother really need help and so does your beloved daughter. You might want to take counselling as well as parenting classes. Your mom really needs counselling, too. I'm so sorry that your mom forced you to stay home. My parents forced me to stay home and go to a nearby community college (DVC, in particular) after I graduated from high school and I am not even allowed to move out at all! I feel for you, Briana and I wish you and your daughter all the best.

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