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Child Abuse Story From Bravebird

by Bravebird
(Tennessee, USA)




Wow...disclose my child abuse story...here it goes...I was born the 5th child in a family of 6. My parents were unhappy in their marriage and would take out their anger (through angry tantrums and furious beatings) on us. My mother would get back at my father by using money for food on anything but food, leaving us with out enough food. Both parents played the usual mind games with us. They would use us to get what they wanted. Failure would bring on a night of beating. Which would leave me sore and bruised and with welts the next day. And a loss of self-worth.

Meanwhile, various shady characters would come into my life. Being left without a parent to protect me, I ended up being molested and raped twice. (Once by an older brother and more than once by an uncle.) The pain from all this kept me believing I was nothing and that I didn't deserve life or love from anyone.

As I became more able to deal with the lies I was taught and the lies I believed, some of the people I thought were supportive actually were not, and in fact blamed me for what happened. I refused to believe their lies anymore. I feel I have wasted too much time trying to make everyone else happy and comfortable at the expense of myself. Even though I have lost friends and some family because of changes I am making, I have gained healthy friendships and relationships that are worth the effort to keep. I am presently working hard for what I want in my life and it feels great to know I deserve to live and to love!

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Child Abuse Story From Bravebird

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Apr 15, 2009
You are an inspiration...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Bravebird, you've certainly chosen an appropriate moniker for yourself; indeed, you ARE brave. To have come through such adversity, to have been battered and berated, to have been sexually assault and THEN have to face the blame when YOU were the one molested and wronged, and still come through it all realizing that what you were taught were lies...it's a testament to your courage and strength. You ARE deserving of life and love. You ARE deserving of friendships and relationships. You ARE deserving of dignity and respect. Not only do you now know that, you are treating yourself in the way that others never did. I commend and applaud you for showing yourself the love you are worthy of. Keep working hard for what you know to be the truth and for what you want in your life. I have no doubt that you will be successful in all your endeavours.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, and for providing hope to other child abuse survivors who still believe the lies they were taught.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 16, 2009
Bravebird, I like it, Good on you.
by: Maurice

Always believe in yourself Bravebird, your life is in your hands now only you can make yourself beautiful after all you've been through. Hi you have real friends, there your stepping stones to real happiness in your life. Precious Jewels who will allow you be yourself, respect you for who you are and let you get on with living your life to the full each day you wake from your sleep. Bravebird, Darlene, need I say more, her comment to you is truly heart and she wants the best for you as she does all her visitors. She's a mammy (real) to us all. Her own abuse led her to feel our feelings who were abused. She guides and suggests ways for each of her visitors as she see's fit. take note of her caring words of support and encouragement to you. In the reading of thembegin to see yourself beautiful in body and mind from all the hurting that has been part of your life. Be brave, be strong, be perseveing in wanting to be true to yourself, your friends and God.

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