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Child Abuse Story From Bradley

by Bradley
(Location Undisclosed)




I am a male and was sexually assaulted when I was 15 years old. My mother's boyfriend used to get drunk when my mom was out of town for work. One night he came into my room and pinned me against the wall. He unzipped my pants and began to "touch" me. I was crying hysterically and begging him to stop but he continued and then toke off my clothes. He continued touching my genitals and saying things like he is doing me a favor because I am enjoying it. I got an erection while he was touching me though I didn't enjoy it at all. I didn't tell anyone until my mom married another guy who was a police officer. I didn't feel I could tell anyone since I got hard but my step father helped me through it.



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Dec 29, 2009
 Bradley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your body betrayed you. It is perfectly natural for a young male to get an erection and to have an orgasm when he is scared, anxious or nervous. It's not uncommon for girls to experience the same kind of body betrayal. While I recognize that your stepfather helped you through this, I do hope you've gotten some form of counselling for what that other man did to you. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Jan 17, 2010
 Bradley, please read this
by: Mark

Bradley,
I'm very, VERY sorry you were abused, and I'm glad that you have been coping with it. Darlene is right - you still need to talk to a professional therapist about your abuse.
Do NOT feel ashamed by your sexual response to your abuse, buddy. It's more common than you know. Besides, EVERYTHING that happened that day was HIS fault. Didn't HE pin you to a wall? Didn't HE take off your clothes? Didn't HE ignore your cries? Didn't HE ignore your begging to stop (and by the way, saying "No!" ONCE should be enough!) HE caused your sexual response, NOT you. Your sexual response says absolutely NOTHING about who you are or whether you enjoyed it or not. You have NO REASON to feel ashamed. Your experience was NOT sexual - it was ABUSE, and therefore, YOU are NOT responsible for what happened nor your body's response to it.
Please remember this if you seek counselling. It might be embarrassing to talk about that day at first, but you should NOT feel ashamed of it.
Remember, Bradley: NOTHING that happened that day was your fault. NOTHING.
Your good buddy,
Mark

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