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Child Abuse Story From Bex

by Bex
(Location Undisclosed)




When I was about eight, I was sexually abused/molested by a girl my own age. Really, I'm not even sure if it was abuse, but it has scared me. She would say that we were just playing house. She would make me get under the covers on her bed. I didn't even know what sex was so I didn't know that what we were doing was wrong. In the games, we would always be a couple and she would always volunteer to be the guy. Sometimes we were orphans that would never see each other again. Then she said we had to "make-out". First, we would just press our mouths against each other and move them around. Then she said they needed to be more realistic. We would open our mouths a little and just move them around or we would actually kiss. Then her hands would move all over me and my private areas. I didn't like it at first, but we played this game every time I was at her house. I started to get used to it. She would press her entire self against me and I would do the same. Somehow, we never got caught. She was an only child and her parents always left us alone. One time I remember very clearly, we were at my house and playing make-believe. She said we were a couple with friends. Once again, she said she wanted to be the guy. Then we played Spin the Bottle with our "friends". She said it landed on us and I started feeling uncomfortable. I asked if we actually had to kiss and she said no, but that we needed to pretend and go into my closet. I went. She then put her hands on my butt and said "You have such a great butt!" She was still pretending to be the boyfriend. She then moved her hands to my chest which had begun developing a year or two ago. She said "And your boobs are awesome!!!!" while squeezing and massaging them. I just sorta laughed uncomfortably and she preceded to kiss me. I can't believe that I remember it so clearly. This went on for a couple years. Every time I was at her house, we would get under the covers on her bed. She would kiss me and touch me all over. I would do the same to her. I eventually told my mom about it. Not all, but some. She said if it ever happened again to firmly tell the girl to stop. I went over her house maybe a month or two later. We were orphans again and being sent somewhere. Her closet had a thing jutting out that was big enough to lay on. She layed on it and I had to lay on the floor. She then leaned over and ran her hands all over my private areas and pressed on them. I told her stop stop and just got up and got out of the closet. She was upset but let it go. We didn't play together very much after that. I don't remember it ever happening again. But it had a large impact on me. Being introduced to those feelings at a young age, I've become a very sexual person. I'm fifteen and think about sex more than any other girl I know. I get turned on really easily because it happened so much when I was little. I'm worried that it will have an effect on my future relationships.






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Child Abuse Story From Bex

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Jun 13, 2010
Bex:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

There are issues here that don't constitute what happened as actual "child abuse" or even "molestation", but you are deeply affected by what did happen. This isn't about labels; it's about how you have been affected. So please, talk to someone about getting help for yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jun 16, 2010
Build up your self worth and your self esteem: Always believe in yourself:
by: maurice

Take special heed of what Darlene has shared with you in her comment: You will be fine: you are highly intelligent: you sure articulated what this girl did to you or what happened between you: Darlene know best Bex: so if you read her comment carefully you will make sense of it all: It would be great too if you talked to a school counsellor or indeed your Mam: You were big enough and strong enough to tell her stop after your Mam re-assuring words: Bex: have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Take part with other girls your own age in sporting and cultural activities and you'll quickly have a greater appreciation of yourself in natural surroundings: Always believe in yourself; build up your self-esteem: get on with living your life to the full as a teenager: taking part in team sports will give you a wholesome way in natural surroundings to put your life and your sexuality in perspective: You'll be fine once you read very carefully what Darlene has written to you: You'll understand her affirmation of you:

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