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Child Abuse Story From Autumn

by Autumn
(Location Undisclosed)




I feel the need to share my story because reading other people's stories have helped me heal. Other people have felt my pain, shame, guilt, fear, anger- from one degree to another. And in telling our stories we break the silence that our perpetrators have counted on.

My family was a typical alcoholic family. My grandmother and grandfather we're highly dysfunctional. My grandfather was often violent to the point you were never sure if yourself or someone else would live through this episode. He was mentally, sexually and psychologically abusive- yelling at us children in a rage while they stood at attention hoping it would not get worse. My Grandmother was severely emotionally, sexually and physically abusive. The day in and day out of living in this environment was very traumatic for thier 7 children. These children have many problems, some are again violent, all mistrustful, some so hurt by the pain caused by these people they have serious mental and emotional problems that disrupt there ability to live normal, happy lives.

As you see I've been speaking of grandparents and aunts, uncle...One of these children was my mother. She had 4 children. None of which she had the capacity to care for. I was taken from her at birth to keep her from harming me. Then through the next few years repeatedly taken away to foster care and given back into her neglectful hands. I was molested by at least 2 people during this time. At age 4 she was signing over my custody to the state. Then Grandma comes to save the day.



So then I became part of this family. This became my life. Isolated. No friends, no community. We moved at least every year. My Grandfather passed away when I was 14 and the next few years were still awful. I was molested by a brother while growing up and a boss at my work when I was 16. I was too screwed up at the time to say anything at all.

When I was 18, I moved out immediately and unfortunately into my first marriage. I thought I was doing the good girl thing. Luckily I saw what that was before I got to deep and left. He had already cheated on me at least twice and was becoming violent. In less then a year that marriage was annulled.

Since then its been a process of recovery. I have certainly had many downs and ups. Currently I'm on a bit of a down but I'm fighting my way back up and I believe I will be better, stronger again soon.




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Child Abuse Story From Autumn

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Mar 24, 2010
Autumn:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Mar 25, 2010
Proud of you !
by: Mac

Autumn; Remember you are not alone, & that you are doing great on your journey of recovery , hope, & happiness. Thanks for sharing.

Mar 25, 2010
The effects of abuse: are real, keeping many in the morass of life
by: maurice

I read daily through Darlene's site the reality of the effects of ABUSE on the innocent and the vunerable: Autumn you sure verify that in your relating of your story: The people who abused you you gave you the worst start to your life that did you an injustice. Each one of us have to rebuild our life after abuse: The hurt and the pain we go through while making a sense of WHY ME is deep. We do it on our own in secret for many years: We have no self worth, our self esteem is at the lowest ebb all through. Autumn, you have arrived at a safe place now. On Darlene's site: She has read your story she has introduced you to Friends who want to support, love, value, respect you, I know from he r comments to each of her visitors personally that she would tell you. Counselling will help you: You are brave, you are intelligent and you have learned from the abuse that put you in the morass of your being. I can see you are lifting yourself out of the morass people wrongly put you in by their abuse of you. You are your own person now in your own right. Love yourself more and more each day. I am almost certain you have a true friend or two who know your pain. Who you have trusted with your secrets. Let the hug and cuddle you. allow them to hold your hand while you seek the help that is important for you now. Like counselling a good therapist will work wonders for you. rebuld your life so you can live it to the full. All or most of us who were abused know the value of getting professional helps in our healing from abuse. In total trust and confidentiality you can let out all the most minute pain your abuse has caused you. Please think about it. I am sure too reading the other stories similiar to your own and the comments from us and darlene who care will give you hope. Hi Autumn move to the sprngtime of you. Blossom once again. Always believe in yourself. be gentle and kind on yourself and your body: look in the mirror. see that wonderful and beautiful me looking out at you. hug yourself, era go on there is no one looking. love yourself. Think positive thoughts about the beuty you looking at. I have a nice body wrongly abused by molesters and abusers. Only I can make it beautiful NOW. caress it, soothe it, massage nice smelling oils lotions into it. ''WoW' Autumn. I hope you know the rest. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. get out there an become active and alive with like minded people who will laugh with you, who will allow you be yourself getting fit with them. Fresh air is a great means of blowing away the cobwebs even a walk by a river letting go of our negative feelings in the flow.

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