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Child Abuse Story From Ashley8

by Ashley
(Location Undisclosed)




Im 15 now. since i was about 5 years old ive been sexual abused. i have 3 younger sisters. My father always was the good guy and i loved him so much and never wanted to let him down. He had a great family( well so that i thought) He was my bestfriend and would cry to me alot about my parents spliting up and i hated my mother. but my dad was twisting my thoughts up and made me love him and think he was great when really, i was being tricked me and my sisters looked up to him so much. like all my friends loved him so much too. everyone loved him and i thought how could i ruin that for him. i mean he even cried to me and said he was messed up and would make me feel bad? like what was i suppose to . you grow up and listen to your parents,. so how was i suppose to say no. and i never wanted to tell because he was a boyfriend, dad, bestfriend, son, brother. I felt horrible to tell.. i promised him. but i carried all his weight on me, like all his problems i took care of him. He actually has 2 brothers and one sister. Who are younger and they are all so close. His sister and i were so close and i actually found out when i told she was sexual abused by him. He got married in jail and his whoole family blames me and i was so close to them, i went to court, and they all were crazy about it. i was strong and i read a letter to him, and out loud at the court and i was 13 when i did it. Hes in jail for ten years and i cant see him until im 30 because he is to good with his words and they are afarid that he can talk me into again. It would happen every saturday night for a couple of years, i just wanted to make him happy :/ i just felt like the world was on my shoulders, and i couldnt do it anymoree. My dad got someone to marry him in jail he is that good.. like his girlfriend was with him when this happened and when i told she was still there. and blamed me ? then married him. but i will be strong and be there for my sisters. ive lost alot of people out of this. and i moved to a different state. its sad and so much more happened, i lost my aunt, 2 uncles, grandparents and father. i had to changed my whole life around. But i have my little sisters and my mom. and they have kept me going. they make me strong and i love them so much. i did this for my sisters, so this wouldnt happen to them, and i got my only wish i wanted.. " that they never got touched by him" and i made that wish happen. sorry if this story is kinda weird and all, but so much happened these last two years after my dad has been gone, but there is so much to add to this. just idk thanks for reading.






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Child Abuse Story From Ashley8

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May 19, 2010
Ashley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It took great courage to tell; I congratulate and applaud you for having that kind of courage. And yes, your courageous actions have spared your sisters. Your father was (IS) sick; and I for one am delighted he's in prison for his crimes. Not only did he groom you and then sexually assault you, he crossed lines that no parent should ever cross in order to further groom you. I do not believe that parents should be best friends with their children; not when they are still growing and maturing. Parents are there to provide guidance and boundaries, and they are there to keep their children safe and protected. Best friends can't do that. Parents should NEVER talk to their children about their marital problems and effectively divide that child with the other parent. As for the rest of your family, they've sided with a child predator, one who's in prison for his crimes. You've "lost" nothing by their refusal to make him accountable while shunning you. The fact that they are out of your life is a blessing. You're now with a supportive mother and you've done a tremendous thing by following through; be proud of that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. And I do hope that you are in some form of counselling in order to help you deal with all of this.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

May 23, 2010
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by: Anonymous

yes i go now, and thank you.. i now understand that. sometimes its hard to deal with everything but im trying to follow threw and be there for my family.

May 24, 2010
You give great HOPE: You are truly The bravest of the brave Good on YOU
by: maurice

Ashley 8: As I read through your story my blood pressure was soaring because I waited until you told the truth about him to Darlene and her visitors: Her site is such a safe place to tell the truth in the privacy of your own Space/Room: It took courage to tell on the Beast: Not a great Father: A No NO of a Father who does not deserve the name: You put him an a place that makes your sisters and possibily other children safe from his deceiving ways of controlling: You, Ashley 8 have given all children great inner strength and hope to tell on Beasts like your father: Good on you: The best child ever born to a mother who loves and protects you and your sisters: Ashley 8 Darlene sure loves you for what you did: her comment is re-assuring and empowering of you: Stay safe, Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: I guarantee you will benefit greatly from taking part with others in healthy and pursuits in sporing and cultural activities: Freedom of mind and body is agreat gift to have: Expressed with others who are like-minded in spirit: There's safety in Numbers: Always believe in yourself: Live well: Laugh alot: Love much: I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH it: You truly are Ashley 8: Be the voice for the voiceless as you grow and mature: Keep your sisters safe:

Jun 05, 2010
you're an inspiration
by: Chanelle

Ashley8, You may only be 15 in terms of age, but you sound way deeper and thoughtful than your years.
Your story is inspiring because it shows the extent you went to protect yourself and your siblings from the suffering you endured...it shows the loyalty to your own safety and that towards your siblings...you will be able to get through this, you have your mother's backing and the support of your siblings which is priceless...
keep going
Chanelle

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