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Child Abuse Story From Aria

by Aria
(Location Undisclosed)




My parents seem like wonderful people. Part of me feels like they are. However, the years of randomly being called a sl*t, a psychopath, a c*nt, stupid, not good enough, that they wish I wasn't their daughter, have started to show that they aren't. I've been slapped, kicked, pushed, pulled, grabbed, had my hair pulled, toe broken, and continuously screamed at. In the past hour my father has told me that I am a stupid c*nt and that he wished I would kill myself. I get straight A's only to be told that they aren't good enough. My mother has admitted that they have been much easier on my brother than me, but still she berates me, never my father. I suggest family therapy, but I am the one forced to see a psychiatrist. They use it to threaten to have me admitted to a hospital as a psychiatric patient, because I am the bad one. They are perfect and I am bad. I am the evil b**ch daughter. My father was mad at my mother (she was mad at my brother for not cleaning) so he came into my room and then threw my things, including my backpack, over the balcony. When this happens I scream and cry, as I have for years, as I have learned to scream and yell from my parents. Not the crying though. They don't cry, they just scream. I hate myself. I'm miserable and don't see a happy life for me, ever. I am constantly told how fat I am, and how no one will want to date me. The sad part is they're right about that. No one will ever want to date me because I am hideous looking and I will forever be alone in his world. Life sucks.




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Nov 13, 2011
Aria:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Those nasty names, they're all lies. Every one of them are lies told by people who are stuck in their own dysfunctional and traumatic childhoods. Mature stable adults don't scream and yell at each other. Mature stable adults don't call others names, especially their precious children. They don't resort to childish tactics. Only deeply disturbed people do these things, Aria. And your parents are deeply disturbed. This has nothing to do with you; it has everything to do with THEM. I know that's hard to believe right now, because you believe the lies. You've been told the lies so often that of course you think they're true. But they aren't. You are perfect as you are, Aria. Perfect. You are a beautiful human being, a beautiful person with special gifts to share with the world. Don't for one second believe that there is no one in the world who will want to be with you. That's utter nonsense. But as long as YOU believe it, you'll make it come true. My mother told me almost every day how worthless I was and how I would never amount to anything or find anyone to love me. And like you, I believed her. Until I found someone who helped me to understand that just because she was my mother didn't mean she knew everything. Just because she was my mother and saying the awful things didn't make them true. It was a light-bulb moment for me. That's when everything started to change. Who You Really Are is inside of you, not outside of you. Remember that. Always. And remember that what's happening in your house is not your fault. And it will never be your fault. Look to your psychiatrist as someone who can help you; mine sure helped me. Your parents need the services of such a professional, but the fact is, you're the one getting the help. Bravo! Stick with it and don't get trapped into believing that it means that something is wrong with you. Not at all. It just means you are reaching out for the help you need. There is no shame in that. Just be honest with your therapist and be open to the entire process. You WILL come through this, Aria, because you're amazingly strong, so much stronger and beautiful than you realize. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Nov 14, 2011
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Aria, what sick, sadistically insane, deluded parents that you had to beat and berate you 24/7...how dare they! That's not even discipline; that's just torture. Oh, and they are wrong. You are not evil; you are not a b****; you are not a sl**; you are not a c***; you are a good person. You are not bad; you are perfect just as you were. You are not fat; you are not ugly; you are beautiful. You are not unlovable; you are lovable. You are not stupid; you are smart and articulate, so never believe any of those poisonous lies that they have been spewing. You deserved so much better than what they did to you. You are not to blame for their sadistic, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. I really hope that you're in a safe place now, far away from such people...and if not, please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you. Oh, and please look into reporting those sad, tragic brutes as well.

Nov 25, 2011
Things that worked for me
by: Priscilla

I used to think I was fat too when I was a teenager, after I became a mother and really am fat I realised how much I could have enjoyed my free and happy teen years if I did not have a some kind of body-dysmorphic idea (forgive me if I am getting this word wrong ;D )

I used to think that I was psychically unattractive and when boys approached me I never realised that they were interested and ruined it for myself because of that.

Honey, if you do feel that you are too fat maybe you can start doing a sport you like? If too expensive, consider how to get some help: you can start running, you can start playing tennis: even if it is just hitting a ball against a wall, it's excercise. Just being practical you know, because you have the power to work on yourself and if you do you will feel strong, empowered and satisfied that you accomplished something nice.

Even thinking that I was fat and not beautiful I was very friendly and interested in colleagues and classmates and made nice friends and was noticed by a very handsome boy who became my husband, not that looks are everything, it just goes to show that personality matters and that is in your power to shape.

I am only giving advise I know worked for me: I wish you will be strong and maybe do something about your parents: report what they are doing to you and get some help, because you should not be used by them for venting off their anger and frustration. Maybe contact DrPhil? I have tears in my eyes now because that is the only advise I can think off that I can see opening your parents eyes. Good luck darling.

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