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Child Abuse Story From Arhena

by Arhena Big Heart
(Florida, USA)




I WAS BORN WITH ALCOHOL SYNDROM !MY SO CALLED MOTHER WAS A DRUNK!! She threw me inthe garbage didnt want me at the age 3 .My grandma heard crys of a baby she searched for the crys an found me in a garbage bucket beside the road , grandma FOUND ME ! Nobody but grandma wanted me! So my dad ended up with me he said i could use her for a lot of good stuff.SO DAD got me, I turnded the age of 5 old enough to do chores so i did as my years went by i did nothing but work ,ilived with my stepmother she was very meen to me ,she would slap me an tel me you are a freak from some wacked out woman an i dont have to love you! your no good for nothing .By the time i reached 9 yrs.of age i wanted to go shopping an go to the movies , iasked she slapped me across the face an said go do the laundry an you can go , so i went down to the cellar started laundry 2 hours later i was done. so i ran upstair to get ready got to the top of the steps an she pushed me down the steps breaking my front tooth bleeding all over she started laughing at me telling my half blooded brother beat me repeadedly, then they all left she sai d clean this s-- - - hole up before your father gets home .so i did i couldnt stand any more i hated everyone except grandma i want to run away ,years of beating an bruises i just wanted someone to love me . I turned 12 i was bleeding down there thought i fell an hurt myself, so i jumped in a tub of cold water , my grandma said cold water stops the bleeding if you cut your self,so i just rememberd that saying , then in walked my stepmother she started laughing at me repeadedly, then she beat me so bad made me clean the tub as i was bent over cleaning she pushed me in the tub hitting my head, when your done retart go to your room no supper.she locked me up for3 days no food or water ,then when i came she had threw a piece of bread at me an you can get your water out of the toilet , she drag me to the toilet an let her son shove my head in the toiletI was 14 yrs old my uncle came to visit took me for a walk then rapped me repeadedly, you can tell who ever nobody will lisen to a retart later that day i kept it yo myself . I HURTnobody but GOD could hear my crys And one day stepmother she drag me to the kitchen shaved my hair told dad i was messing with your shaver my dad made me stripp then beated me till i bled ,.TILL THIS DAY I DONT SPEAK TO NOBODY WHO PUT ME THROUGH LIVING HELL! IM 50 years old now an NObody will hurt me again................. also i married men who was very abuisive they about killed me thank GOD for childhood abuisie it made me tough but not tough enough because he cracked my skull broke my nose threw hot grease in my face bashed my teeth in just because i was sick an could not cook........TODAY I HAVE A WARM HEARTED MAN THAT IS MAKING ME A BETTER PERSON I STILL HAVE NIGHTMARES IM POSTTRAMATIC PLEASE NEVER LOCK ME UP !! I WILL LOOSE IT! I WANT TO SAY THANK YOU FOR YOU ! MY HEAD DOCTOR SAID AFTER ALL40 years of tourcher pain PAIN IM SURPRISED YOUR NOT A KILLER !I SAID WHY I HAVE MY FREEDOM THANK FOR LISTENING ........................P.S. i get hugs i never had a hug growing up






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Child Abuse Story From Arhena

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Sep 08, 2011
Arhena:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I agree with your doctor...very surprised that you didn't turn into a killer after all that abuse. It shows your amazing strength and resilience. I'm delighted that you are seeing a therapist and that you are now in a marriage with a man who treats you well. You certainly deserve that. You did NOT deserve to be abused in any way. And it certainly wasn't your fault that you were. You deserved, and still deserve, to be treated with dignity, respect and love. You ARE lovable, Arhena. Always remember that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you only positive energy and loads of virtual hugs!

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Sep 08, 2011
We are family with darlene on her site sitting at a woman's heart table:
by: maurice

Arhena; You did not lower your dignithy: You were so brave and so strong not to: Darlene's comment to you speaks all our hearts feelings for what you lived through: You are one remarkable woman:Words fail me to express my true feelings it is so horrific what you had to endure at the hands of beasts with animalis tedendies for the ferocious abuse they perpertrated on you: I truly hope you have one/two friends that LOVE you and YOU them: With such friends you will make the best of your life: You are Amazing: The Architect of your own destiny: Beautiful: Both inside and out: Always believe in yourslef: I love you: in total respect: understanding: Valueing you to be a very courageous and determined Woman not to lower your self-respect and dignity: to attack the anilmals: That makes you a woman of great humanity: A sense of a superior being allowed you to be so: Call it God or who ever: I admire you: Darlene admires you: Live Well: Laugh Often: LOVE much:

Sep 09, 2011
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Arhena, I can't believe that your dad would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick, sadistic monster of a stepmother and allow her and her slimy son to beat and berate you everyday...how dare he! You were given a raw, crappy deal because those people are so twisted in their own ways of thinking that they don't even know how to take care of themselves, not to mention be parents to you (even your biological mom is no better than those sickos). If those sadistic brutes didn't want to be there, they should've had the courage to give you up for adoption or even at least let your grandma take you in instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that they and even your ex-husbands chose is inexcusable. Oh, and they're wrong. You're really smart and articulate. You are not unlovable; you are not "good-for-nothing"; you are worthy of love, protection, dignity and respect, all of which you were sadistically denied of, so never believe any of those lies that they were spewing. Oh, and shoving you down the stairs and then laughing at you for crying in pain (and even taking pleasure in torturing you) is a really cowardly thing to do because only cowards would do such things to such an innocent, defenseless little girl you once were. They need to go to jail for all those terrible crimes that they committed against you because you did nothing wrong. You are not to blame for their sadistic, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. Oh, and I'm glad that your current husband is with you now because he is so sweet for doing that; I just hope that you try counselling and that you look into reporting those sadistic beasts to prison. Oh, and please erase all those awful memories, especially the memories about that sad, tragic excuse of a woman destroying your beautiful long hair. I'm hurting for you.

Sep 27, 2011
Wow!
by: Anonymous

This story brought tears to my eyes :'( Im very sorry this happened to you. Much love and respect to you and may God bless you and keep you xx..

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