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Child Abuse Story From April

by April M.
(Malvern, New York, USA)




I was born in England and moved to New York with my mom and brother Ricky when I was 5 years old. I am 13 now and have only seen my father one time since then.

When I was 7, my mom got married again and we moved to a very nice house. Gene, my stepfather, owns a convenience store and works mostly at night while my mom works it during the daytime. He was and still is very nice to me and Ricky, who was only 4 at that time.

When I got home from school, he would give me and my brother a bath, and at the same time he would be in the shower. As I got a little older, I realized he was exposing himself on purpose, as I would see him naked very often, and he would arrange to see me naked a lot also.

When I was 8 or 9, he started to bathe me alone, without my brother. He would wash my entire body with his hands and soap. I got very embarrassed. At first he told me it was ok, and my mom said he could give me baths. I told my mom, but she just told me he's my daddy now and it's ok. Then, after a while, he would take me into his room after my bath and wipe skin lotion on my body. This went on for a few weeks. And then one day, as I was getting a bath, he went into the shower and then took me into his room and made me rub him with the lotion while he was naked. He has never made me have intercourse with him, but we do have oral sex. I know it is wrong, but I got to the point where it is ok and I never told anyone, except my one girlfriend who said I should tell my mother. He is very good to me and my brother and buys us stuff all the time, but I know now that he does that to keep me from telling on him. I feel bad too, because I know my mom really loves him and he is very good to her. I think if I tell, it will really hurt my mom.

Should I just tell him I don't want to do this anymore and see if it stops so I don't ruin my family? My brother doesn't even know what's going on. He loves Gene, as do I. I know he has pictures of me naked, and I don't know where they are, but if my mom ever finds them, she would really be mad at me.

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May 19, 2008
TELL someone...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your stepfather is manipulating you. He is NOT being good to you. He's taking advantage of your youth, your vulnerabilities, and your inability to truly understand the consequences of his vile actions against you (present and future). What he is doing to you is sexual assault. What he is doing to you is NOT your fault. It will never BE your fault. No matter what! You are not in a position to consent to any of the acts. What your stepfather is doing is child abuse; and it is illegal!

If your mother would be mad at you rather than your stepfather for the naked photos or any of the other details of what Gene is responsible for, then she's the one with the problem. Mother's are supposed to protect their children, not blame them when someone in a position of trust and authority over them takes advantage in a perverted way.

Tell a teacher, a school counsellor, or an adult you trust, someone who can help you. I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with; and it IS abuse, April. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse through them.

You owe it to yourself TO disclose, April. Whatever happens to your family after disclosing is not because of you. Gene is the one who has destroyed your family and your trust. Gene is the one who must be held accountable, not you. Never you. No matter what!

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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