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Jun 02, 2011
 Anonymous:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I commend and applaud you for coming forward with this. I must also say that what you don't know with absolute certainty whether or not the child was awake and pretending to be sleeping. You may think you know, but you don't know for sure. Many victims pretend because what's happening to them is either too traumatic to deal with, because they don't know what else to do, or because they are frozen in place by what's happening. Clearly, you feel remorse for what you did, but that doesn't mean the child was not affected in some way. And while you stopped soon after beginning, I suggest you stop trying to convince yourself that no harm was done to the child, and instead, focus on seeking out some form of counselling to deal with what you did and why, as well as in some way making amends for your actions. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 13, 2011
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by: maurice

Darlene has spoken from her heart to you: You'll be fine: get help, put all what ou have written out on the table to a therapist or a counsellor: Who will in turn put all you wrote so honestly in persapective for you: Darlene comment will empower you to get that help: I find some of what she wrote a bit frightening: Because even the ones we know who actually abused us rarely if ever know the fear they instill in us and the effects we suffer after: It is frightening to know while you realized almost immediately what you did was wrong that you were not aware whether the child was asleep or just pretending out of fear: counselling is important: I know it put alot in persapective when I shared my abuse: You'll be fine you did what you knew to be right at the time: You stopped: I heard from a very qualified and professional American physocoligist who was facilitating a program for late teens early 2o's male female young adults who had suffered abuse at the hand of the Paramiliteries in Northern Ireland: He was cirled all them while on a residential 10 days to begin the 9 month program one of the days: Said to about six of them individually I bet you are suffering from the already listening syndrome: I was part of the community based program: I wondered what did he mean? He returned to each of them and said I bet you are worried/anxious what that person over there is saying about you: Most admitted I am: Then he said How do you know they are sayong anything about you: I don't then stop suffering: It empowered me because If I was to worry like that I would be Mr stressed out: So NOw unless or until someone say directly to me what they are thinking then I keep my sanity; So Anonymous try some form of counselling and don't be worried or anxious about wheter they were asleep or not asleep untill they say it to you: Darlene wants what is the best for you: I do: Am I hearing you say I want what is the best for me: Good on you: have a healthy mind in a healthy body:

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