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Child Abuse Story From Anonymous36

by Anonymous
(Location Unknown)




Why did I repeat the pattern??? 
My mom and dad were not monsters, but frustrated. I got to be the whipping post. I was a good kid, good student, a good wife, an abused wife, a horrible mother and eventually a cop.

I could not do a damn thing right when I was a kid. My dad stomped on my head and threw me out because I had sex when I was 15 years old. He called me a whore. My mom cut me with a 10" butcher knife on the arm when I was 11 years old. I don't remember why, I just remember cowering in the closet with my heart beating out of my chest.

I still love them both, and they love me. I'm mid century now. I guess no-one cared. I went on to be worse. I did things to my daughter when she was 4 and under that I don't want to even talk about because I'm so ashamed. Dear Jesus, forgive me. I'm not worthy. Abuse is not an excuse. I don't know why I was so cruel. I fear burning in hell every day. I am so sorry, Daughter. I was not as bad as most, but I was the worst. I hope you will forgive me.

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Sep 10, 2009
More than just "frustrated"...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Anonymous, I've moved your comment to its own page, as comments on the various pages on this site are intended for the person who wrote their story.

Your parents were far more than just "frustrated". You don't see them as monsters, but others might, even if they do love you and you love them. "Loving" mothers do not take a 10-inch butcher knife to their daughters. "Loving" fathers do not call their daughters a whore and kick them out of the house at 15 for having sex. I've learned that when we minimize what happened to us, we are often doomed to repeat what happened to us, at least on some level. You've admitted abusing your daughter. With counselling, perhaps the two of you can heal together. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 10, 2009
Such cruelty...and a twisted excuse for love
by: Anonymous

Parents that are as sick and sadistic as yours had probably been to you really shouldn't have any children in the first place if they're incapable of loving them, nurturing them, and even protecting them from harm. What they did to you is not love at all; in fact, they are very twisted in their own ways of thinking. They should've either gone to prison or gotten help for themselves...but either way, you need help, too. Have you tried counselling?

Sep 11, 2009
Just to straighten out a bit...
by: Anonymous

Oops, I actually meant "Such cruelty...and a twisted excuse for love".

From Darlene: I corrected the line above to eliminate the confusion.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir



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