Child Abuse Story From Anonymous in North Carolina

by Anonymous
(North Carolina, USA)

At the age of 48, a single mom of 3 I finally got the answers as to why i was abused Physically and Emotionally. I was too strong and independent and had a mind that i could use and think for myself in other words was smart and had a brain and knew how to use it. Simple. And that is what bothered the hell out of my parents because they were not able to have total control over me. I was independent strong friendly and could take care of things had many friends and was well liked where ever i went. Now as a parent myself, my children are like me and I am So proud of them, it makes me so proud when strangers come up to me and say you are so blessed to have such well mannered children. Then why would my parents beat the daylights out of me when i was praised by a stranger....go figure! I did try asking my mother once at the age of 40 and she denied everything and made silly excuses. Its like hitting your head against a brick wall trying to make them see what they did.

They would find little excuses to beat me or abuse me, even if my siblings did something wrong, like smoking and cigarette butts were found, i was beaten with a leather belt because she could do no wrong and it had to me who smoked. Once i was beaten black and blue right before going to school because my best friend called to remind me to get a book for her to school. my father answered and then beat me because he didn't like her father who according to him he knew as a child and he was a spoiled rich brat. I tried explaining to him that she is not like that but my explanations fell on deaf ears. When one of my friends in school saw the marks on my arms and legs, i told her i fell down the stairs. I was only 10 years old.

I got divorced in 2003 and had to stay for a week at my parents house, i always wanted a happy close knit family and did everything for my parents, just to please them but i guess it was never enough. The straw that broke the camels back was when my father locked my children (ages 5 and 9) in 104 degree heat and told them to leave this is not their house. I was out looking for a job and found my terrified children huddled up together. That day i told my children to call 911 from the neighbors house if ever he did that again. My entire family turned against me for saying that to my children. I never spoke to my father again after that and then after another 3 years cut all ties with my mother when she stood against me in court and was representing the man that i was married to, who had abused me and raped me. That was the day i walked out of the court house and looked at my mother straight in her eyes and said "May God never give any child a Mother like You" and walked away from their lives and have no intentions of ever going back, i have no feelings for them, they have killed them all.

Lesson #1: Abusive parents will never change, in their eyes they have done no wrong.

Lesson #2: They will also abuse your children because they don't like you.

Lesson #3: Our religion teaches us to be good to your parents. But it also says give them the same love and affection they gave to you when you were a child. I don't recall any love or hugs.

Lesson#4: For your own sanity, one needs to break ties because the abuse will never end. It is not worth the stress.

Lesson#5: Know that you are a good person and loved by many. Yes it is gaping hole in your life, but it's not worth jumping in a hole that is filled with people that are not content with themselves and want to control someone, who is content.

Lesson #6: Now i feel it's their loss because i know i am a good human being with a heart of gold. And God takes care of his children and he has taken care of me by giving me the 3 most loving children who have made me very proud of them.

We are never alone God is Always with us. Have faith in Him and He will take care.

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