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Child Abuse Story From Anjelica

by Anjelica
(Denmark)




Justice and Forgiveness??? 
Hi Darlene, thank you for your site. It has helped me put words my experience and how I felt/feel.

I've worked really hard to accept that the emotional, physical abuse and neglect was my fate - so I can move on - but what I don't get is that when I say to people I want them to know the consequences of what they did, I'm told "why, what are you going to get out of it-leave it be and move on".

But I feel that they are getting away with what they did - and that bothers me !!

I don't know how to cope with this feeling, I don't know how do to forgive something thats unforgivable.

best regards



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May 02, 2011
 Anjelica:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I wrote a comment to another contributor this morning that might help you with what forgiveness actually is, at Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Kylie E. I will also tell you that confrontations are not something that I advocate. Confrontations are generally wracked with minimization, outright denial, or the finger of blame is pointed at the victim. All this serves to re-victimize the already victimized person. Abusers don't usually fess up to their crimes, but victims want that sense of justice and believe that a confrontation can help them get there. If one confronts, one cannot expect anything in return; but that's never the case. We confront with expectations of either answers for what happened to us, or at the very least, the ability to disclose what that abuse did to us. But rarely do these confrontations measure up to our expectations. They instead often set us back. Please consider seeking out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what you endured, as well as what you're dealing with now as a result of confronting your abusers. You didn't deserve to be abused. You most definitely deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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