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Child Abuse Story From Andy

by Andy
(Austin, Texas, USA)




The Babysitter/Neighbor: 
I was about five years old when my parents asked our neighbor to watch me after school while they were at work. She was an attractive twenty-five-year-old woman, which I recall my father calling "one hot chick" and because she was the daughter of my mother's best friend, my parents decided that she would be the perfect , including her, because she could use the money. I, on the other hand did not like her because of the way she always looked at me.

On the first day she picked me up from school I learned that my feelings about her were pretty good. On the way to her house she kept reaching over and touching and rubbing me in a very aggressive manner. When we got to her house and she got me inside, she closed and locked the doors then she grabbed me by my arm and took me into her bedroom where she took her skirt and shirt off exposing herself. She had no panty or bra on. Then she grabbed me and threw me onto her bed and got on top of me. She quickly pulled my clothes off and before I realized it she was licking and sucking on my penis. I tried to fight her but she just slapped me hard and told me to do as she said or she was going to kill me and tell my parents that I ran away. She then did whatever she wanted to me that day, all the while laughing and giggling as she did whatever she pleased, including some very, very nasty things that I can't even put into print.

I wish that I could say that was the only time she did this to me but she did whatever she felt like doing to me for the next six years. Sometimes it was for extended periods when my parents left me in her care while they went on a business trip; sometimes these trips would last almost two weeks.



I never told my parents because she would always remind me of what she would do to me if I ever told anyone, and sometimes while she was doing things to me she would pretend to act out what she would do to me if I talked and she would always laugh while she was doing it and say "This is something that I would just love to take my time doing to you."

She finally moved away with her husband of two years. He never knew of her activities with me and I never told anyone, always afraid that she would come back and hurt me.

Eventually I grew out of the fear of her and I was able to learn to deal with the pain and anguish of what she did to me.

Now I have a beautiful wife of thirty years and two strong boys and one beautiful daughter (she takes after her mother). All have finished college, married and have successful careers.

All I can say to you out there is listen to your children when they say they don't like the babysitter, and above all else, if you have to have a babysitter, invest in a baby-cam. They were not available back in the late sixties when I was a kid, but we have them now.

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Child Abuse Story From Andy

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Jan 27, 2009
You offer excellent advice...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Andy, I'm so very sorry you lived through sexual abuse at the hands of your female babysitter.

Your message about monitoring a child's babysitter and listening to the child is a very important one for parents to heed. Listening and paying attention to the child's behaviour before and after the child is in the care of another is critical to that child's well-being. Children cannot speak up for themselves; therefore, they need their parents to be vigilant in protecting them. Prevent Child Abuse: Tips to help keep your child safe in daycare on this site offers additional information.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Andy.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 27, 2009
The enablers for parents and a pervert for a babysitter
by: Francine

Geez, Andy, that babysitter is such a twisted pervert! I'm so sorry! Have you tried counselling yet?

May 05, 2009
Listen to your children
by: Scott

listen to your children

I am a child care worker and love my job I have been working with children for seven years and hate to hear story?s of abuse of any kind (thank god I only had to deal with it three times in my career but I fear knowing that it will not be the last time)

any way I just wanted to comment on how you said listen to your children if they do not like their babysitter because children have a great judgment in character

may God bless all of his children and punish the ones who do them harm

God bless

Scott

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