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Child Abuse Story From Andrew

by Andrew
(USA)




When I was 10, my father (who was the only one I lived with) started to sexually abuse me. He would abuse me in every way possible. The most often way he would abuse me was in the shower.

He would come with me in the bathroom and watch me undress. He would watch with intensity at my crotch area. He would turn on the shower and have me get in. He would leave, locking the door behind him and go get his swim suit on. When he would come back, I was always terrified. He would step in the shower with me and then grab my penis, squeezing as hard as he could. I would scream, but he would just laugh. Sometimes he would make me bend over and he would run a finger in my anus. It would hurt so I bad I would cry. He didn't seem to care. We would get out and he would run with my clothes. So I was left naked. I would have to run up to my doorless bed room to get clothes.

One time I remember distinctly was when we went to a restaurant with a whole bunch of people I didn't know but who were my dad's friends. We sat there eating when I felt my father pulling my legs apart and unzipping my pants. He then put his hands in them. He sat the whole dinner fondling me. Near the end, he asked me to go to the bathroom while he talked with his friends. I didn't want to disappoint my dad, so I left. On my way back, the guys at the table were all looking at my crotch area. I sat down at the table again. The guy across from me asked if he could see me naked later. I said no, but my dad gave me a death look. He said that the boys were coming over to play with me. At home, he had me undress and lay on the couch while each of the men touched me inappropriately.



The last time my father sexually abused me I was 15. I was in bed, sleeping. He came in and said he wanted me to sleep with him because a murderer was said to be on the loose (it was a lie). I went into his bed and fell asleep (or that's what he thought). He reached over and grabbed my penis. Pure pain. He then tried to take my pants off. I "woke" up and told him I was going to my room. He yelled at me and turned on the lights. He held me down and took off my pants. He then got on top of me and started touching me. I was in pain and screaming. He didn't listen. He flipped me over and pulled my butt cheeks apart till the skin at the top ripped and I was bleeding. He stuck his finger in as he could and moved it around. I felt my insides were being scrambled. Then he grabbed me by my penis and dragged me down the hall, down the stairs and onto the kitchen floor. He yelled at me to clean up the mess, naked. I did what I was told while he took pictures.

I called the cops a few days later, and he was arrested and went to jail. I was lucky to survive. I was taken to the doctor and they diagnosed me with a infection in my groin.

I am 16 now. I tell my story because I didn't speak out soon enough. Once is enough. Tell soon.

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Apr 18, 2008
Don't blame yourself for not telling...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What your father and his friends did to you was despicable, Andrew. You had a birthright to a loving father. Instead, you were forced to live like a sexual slave. You didn't deserve what happened to you. You didn't ask for what happened to you. Your father was the adult in charge of taking care of you; you were, and still are, the child. He had a duty as your father to nurture and protect you and to treat you with dignity and respect. He failed on all counts. You, Andrew, failed on NONE. The fact that you did disclose shows me how strong you are. I hope you see that strength in yourself.

While I thank you for posting your story as a valuable message for others, I can't help but read an underlying tone of regret in your story, one that screams of self-blame. You didn't tell for a variety of reasons, reasons that you cannot hold yourself accountable for. As a 10-year-old boy, you had no power. Your father had ALL the power, power that he grossly misused well into your adolescent years. He took advantage of your trust and vulnerability. I refer you to my male victims of sexual abuse page for a discussion on why males do not disclose. Perhaps you'll find comfort in what's written there.

I hope you are in some form of counselling to help you deal with all the emotional residue of what you've endured. You are certainly worth it.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 18, 2008
Hi my name is Francine and I feel sorry for you
by: Francine

OMG I'M SO SORRY!!!!!!!!!!

Apr 22, 2008
Shocking.
by: Vicky

Andrew, reading your story puts tears in my eyes, literally. I'm sorry what you've been through. My god, what a terrible man your father is.

May 14, 2008
Im so sorry
by: John

Andrew, I am so sorry for what you went thru. No one has a right to treat another person especially a kid this way, I do not know how old you are now but I do want to say this. As someone who was also sexually abused but did not tell I grew uo and never dealt with . Now I am in my 30's having to deal with something I wish I would have taken care of long ago. It festers and grows. Please take care of yourself and get counseling or what ever you fell you need to help yourself. But most of all those feelings you may have gotten from being used as someone toy. I had them to and they dont just go away. Dont waste your life blaming yourself. Hes the one who should be ashamed not you. You are a great person and you need to know that and don't let anyone including that little voice in your head tell you any diffrent. I hope you are ok and I wish nothing but all the best for you the rest of your life. John

May 28, 2008
Soooooo Sorry!!!!!!
by: Joshua

Similar things happened to my family and friends. You did the right thing by speaking out and telling the world. You might have inspired someone else to tell their stories to the cops.
Something similar happened to me. I am 14 years old, although it happened when I was 7 or 8.

Oct 08, 2008
strength
by: Anonymous

i am so sorry. you seem like such a strong person. most people your age would never let anyone know that. im so glad you decided to speak out so maybe someone else that reads this will to/

Jun 15, 2010
not alone
by: Anonymous

Andrew, there is no way to express how much i feel for u. Im terribly sorry for what u went through. I woudnt dare say i know how u feel but just to assure u that ur not alone, i am disclosing for the first time in my life, what has happened to me. When i was just a young boy of 8, 4 boys who were a few years older then me kidnapped me. At first they made me dance nude for them. When the song was over, they passed me around and each of them had their turn at fulfiling their sexual desiers, which included knives, torches, strangling and oral sex to the point of torture. I have since then made as much as a recovery as i ever will, but as im sure u know what happens to us children never goes away. I"m 18 now.

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