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Child Abuse Story From Andrea

by Andy
(Toronto, Ontario, Canada)




I don't really remember when, but it must have been around 2 years to 4 years old. I was an angry, fighting, emotional kid growing up. I liked to lie, about stupid things. I had 7 brothers and sisters, when in reality I only had 1 sibling. Many things. I didn't steal from work, I gave away to friends. I had very abusive boyfriends. I often had many problems. I usually confided in FOOD. I grew up hardly having friends or keeping them. I would usually take things out on my parents. I tried to commit suicide. I was charged with making harassing phone calls to my boyfriend's family. When I was about 22 years old, I had some nightmares that made me remember what exactly happened.

After counselling, I think I am not perfect but better adjusted. I went to school. I have three degrees, but my communication skills lack, so I have a hard time expanding in the fields.

I am lucky. I have a loving and understanding husband and 4 kids. But my life is always, and will always be, a turmoil battle. It is not one thing that does not affect the memories of how the person totally damaged my life and has left me with a mess that I always have to clean up. The only thing is, I am confused now about who really was the abuser. I once believed that it was the babysitter's friend, but I just found out my Uncle was convicted of Molesting his stepdaughter; he was actually visiting my family around the time I was 2-4. Either way, whomever it was, ruined my life.

I have always used food as a comforter to my many issues. Now I am 100 lbs overweight. Just my life has never stopped being a never-ending battle. And depression is always in the background.

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May 20, 2008
Your life doesn't have to STAY ruined...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Andrea, if you believe you will be forever battling he effects of what you endured as a child, then you will forever battle. But if you believe that you can overcome, you will overcome.

I was once at least 150 lbs overweight. Like you, food was what I used for comfort. Only, it wasn't comforting at all; it was all-consuming! I lived only for my next "fix" of whatever I could gorge myself with. I lived to be out of pain. I lived every moment of every day wanting to be alone with food. Wonderful, glorious, never-judging, always-there-for-me food. But food wasn't feeding me; it was feeding on me. And then I went the other way...anorexia and bulimia; yet other methods of self-destruction. The therapist I saw in my twenties taught me why I ate and why I didn't eat. He taught me that I insulated myself with food. When I came to understand it was all about my own self-loathing and anger and hostility, when I came to realize that I as an adult had choices about my own life, that I no longer needed food—or NO food—to bury the pain, I began to make REAL progress.

You said you've been in counselling...perhaps it's time to re-enter sessions with a therapist. The best gift you can give to your children is to take excellent care of their mother. You deserve that kind of care for yourself, Andy, and your children deserve to have a mother who is happy, healthy and honouring of herself.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir


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