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Child Abuse Story From Amy

by Amy
(England)




Wish i was never born!! 
When i was about 1 and half years old my parents started physically abusing me. I was locked up, kicked, hit, punched and pushed around. I even ended up in hospital one time with a neck injury!!! It hurt to have it done to me but it was even worse having to watch it happen to my two sisters.
I remember when I was 6 having to watch my 2 year old sister getting beaten. She was covered in red marks and bruises. I felt so hopeless because I couldn't do anything to stop them.
That was when i started self harming. I didn't want to die but the self harm just calmed me down and helped me to feel in control. The self harm lasted for about two years but the physical abuse lasted for about 7. My parents stopped when we moved to another country but then they started emotionally and verbally abusing us. I remember trying to fake a smile but then they would say one more thing and I would break down. I would cry myself to sleep and my parents wouldn't realise.
At the moment I am still emotionally and verbally abused. There is also a small amount of physical abuse but not as much.
My dad moved to another country and since then my mum has been neglecting us. There is never much food in the fridge and she will go out and we will not see her until the next morning. I get stuck looking after my sisters and so I cannot see my friends.





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Jul 10, 2011
Amy:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I for one am SO happy you WERE born, Amy. Our paths have crossed as a result of both of us being born, paths that can branch off into other paths that can help us both and help others too. That's the beauty of our lives intersecting. The fact that you're here, and have written your story on this site means that you're helping others; and when you help others you help your Self. So again, I'm so glad you're here. As for your parents, they have a lot of problems that they're ill-equipped to handle; and they're taking those problems out on you and your sisters. None of what is happening is your fault, Amy. And it's not your sisters' fault either. Fault lies squarely on the shoulders of your parents because they are choosing to abuse you. And you are not to blame for the abuse inflicted on your sisters. Your parents have all the power, and they're using that power to control, manipulate and abuse you. You don't deserve to be mistreated in any way, Amy. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and love. You need help for the fact that you aren't. Talk to a counsellor at school or a trusted teacher. Contact ChildLine on 0800 1111 in order to talk to someone. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.donthideit.com

Remember, Amy, you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, by your parents and by YOU. When you self-harm you're mistreating your Self in much the same way your parents have. Start by treating your Self with the love you deserve. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jul 10, 2011
The sooner, the better...Darlene is right!
by: Anonymous

Amy, I'm sorry to hear about your sadistic parents. You were given a raw, crappy deal because they are so twisted in their own ways of thinking that they don't know how to even take care of themselves, never mind be parents to you and your sisters. They don't know how to love even themselves; all they ever knew is hate so they should've known better and loved and cherished you guys. If they didn't want to be there, then they should've had the courage to give you guys up for adoption and leave instead of sadistically abusing you guys. The path that they chose was and still is inexcusable. You are not to blame for their sadistic, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the children; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you guys, so please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.

Jul 11, 2011
How wonderful on the mountain are the feet that bring good news: Good News:
by: maurice

Music to my ears AMY: I hope you will make Darlene's words music in your ears and heart: Read them again I for one am SO happy you were born Amy: Our path's have crossed as a result of both of us being born: I am here blessed too that I have crossed Darlene's path and now yours because I was born: I never asked to be born is the one thing I can make real from time to time: But, I was, I was a beautiful baby, I was that beautiful child/adolecent that someone else abused: It was not my fault: I did not ask them to abuse me: THey did: I am now beginning the process of making sense of it: Amy you have come to the right safe haven site to begin that process: Darlene truly has given you specially her heart feeling words: from her woman's heart she empatises with you in all your shared in the truth as it happened in your life (abuse) Let this be the new beginings you hoped for and wished for; She has given you words to work with and act on: So read her comment slowly and take into your heart the one's that make you feel good about yourself: Some form of counselling wil help too Amy: Having one/two friends your own age and gender will help you value and respect your beautiful and wonderful self: I am beautiful: I am gifted: I am tallented: I have a better sense of myself now I know it was not right that these people who were to love and cherish me abused me as an infant/child: cruelly: they are monsters and molesters: How could two people beat a two year old body: It is unimagineable to me AMY; Please care for yourself NOW: You have begun that process by being so brave, having the courage to look for and find Darlene's site: Start living your life to the full from TODAY: One sure way is to get out there with your friends.fellow students and like-minded people your own age and gender taking part in TEAM sports and sporting and cultural activities: AMY it will empower you: You see a whole new ME thinking beauty looking out at you: Be gentle and kind on that me: say positive things about how wonderful and beautiful I am: Be safe Stay safe, no more self-harming that gentleness and beauty: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT: MY NEW MOTTO: Do hugs not drugs hug and cuddle yourself and others close to you: You'll feel good and make others feel good with you AMY

Jul 11, 2011
Listen :)
by: Unknown...

Hi amy, um same thing has happened to me. my parents always say i wish i were dead because of you or say why did i ever have you. I never told anyone. I'm just so afraid everyone will feel bad for me and give me attention but most of all think im a freak. :\ It sucks i know. But what i have to say is that, Someone, somewhere and somehow theres a person who loves you for you who are wont hurt you in anyway and just feels for you? I understand, and do you know who that person is? God. Pray. Pray. Pray. He could hear you cry yourself to sleep. He was there the moment you were born. He helps you through out your life. :) Im REALLY REALLY REALLY sorry for whats happening to both of us. And what i have to say about our parents is that, NO parent should ever HURT they're child. They're very sick people who need to stop putting out they're anger on us. Im sorry to have to say that. But i mean i JUST CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE. :( Its hard to understand i know but i mean...:( Im so sorry for you.

Jul 13, 2011
Amy
by: Braelyn

You have been given some very encouraging words. Take those words and run with them. Be glad that your mother is not home at night. That takes a burden off of you and your sisters. You won't have to worry about verbal abuse or any other abuse. Find a teacher or neighbor that you trust and confide these things in them trust me they will find a way to help you. I was abused by my mother as an infant, child and up until my present husband opened my eyes and showed me what she was doing to me. She didn't only verbally abuse me, she was so physically abusive that I can't remember alot of my childhood. She helped my ex-husband take my children away from me. She has told so many lies about me and made people believe it it is crazy. Now I have found out from numerous doctors that I am suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is like what the Soldiers from War get. I am bound and determined to overcome this and not have my son be damaged. You and your sisters deserve a better life and with God's help you will get it. Stay positive and keep the faith. We are all glad that you and your sisters were born and we all love you.

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