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Child Abuse Story From Amanda

by Amanda
(Dawsonville, Georgia)

I don't know when my mom's emotional abuse started. When I was in eighth grade, mine and my mom's relationship got real bad. It was probably because that was when my sister got more physically abusive. She would hit me and shove me. Once she hit me with the phone and left bruises on my elbows. Another time, she chased me out of her room with a hanger and started hitting me with it (but she was allowed in my room; Mom's rules). She's two years younger than me and I could never stand up to her because my mom would get mad. She never believed anything my sister did was wrong, so I never told on her. My mom would tell me that I was lying if I ever told on my little sister. So I stopped talking to my mom.

After that, I never seemed to do anything right. I was always selfish and mean and rude. I think the comment that hurt the most was when she told my I was the most hateful child in the world. It hurt even worse when I told her that it hurt me badly and she just said, "Well, you are." We weren't even fighting and she wasn't mad at me, that I knew of. She would call me a b****, and she said if I got my eyebrows done I would look like a hooker.

I never thought my mom would hit me, but she did. It truly felt like a metal baseball bat was colliding with my head. My food went flying across the table and I was almost knocked out of my chair. I was really scared. She's also hit my arms and legs, but my head is where she likes to hit me the most. And I should note that she doesn't hit me often, but when she does, it really hurts.

She hasn't hit me since my dad found out that she had hit me. My parents are divorced and they despise each other so much that they can barely talk. That is until my dad found out about all the stuff she was doing to me. He was furious!

I'm still going through this, but I only have a few more years. My dad has told me that I could move in with him, but I really don't want to leave my friends, so I haven't. I don't talk to my mom or my sister, at all. If we do happen to end up in a conversation, it turns into a fight. It's always my fault. I never win and she always gets the last word. That's why it's better if I keep my mouth shut.

Hopefully, one day she'll see that she's really hurt me and she'll apologize. Until then, I can't do anything but forgive her.

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Child Abuse Story From Amanda

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Sep 17, 2007
There is someone to talk to
by: Darlene Barriere

Amanda, even if it's only for a few more years, things can get worse for you. I strongly urge you to contact Child Help USA. They are not a reporting agency. They are staffed with trained professional counsellors who are available 24/7. The number is 1-800-4-A-CHILD. Call them. You shouldn't have to deal with this alone. You shouldn't have to deal with this at all.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 17, 2007
theres hope for you
by: Brian Hill

i cant even begin to imagine what you went through i was abused and sexually molested by my older brother at the time i had no clue what he was doing to me but i knew it felt weird i know what its like to have a parent take one childs side over the other but cheer up there is hope for you no child deserves what any of us went through.

Sep 17, 2007
its so sad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by: jerrica

thats so sad. its not good that your mom hit you like that you know do you get help by someone

Sep 18, 2007
heya
by: sarah g

heya huni hope ur ok? i just read ur story omg n i thought i had it bad when i was younger,u have to understand that none of this ur fault,ur mum is, u r the innocent 1, im here if u eva need a friendly chat sweetheart ur not on ur own and neva will be, i hope that 1 day u find happiness,im here if u wud like 2 chat, if u wud reply 2 this message huni take care im thinking of u xxx

Sep 18, 2007
Speakin from Truth
by: Anonymous

well i think that in your own way you can get over that because i was sexual abused for so long by my step dad and i got over it with the help of God all things are possible???????????????

Sep 20, 2007
i know how u feel...
by: Anonymous

wow it feels like we are going through the same thing without the hitting.But i have a special place,I look to my friends for comfort and i talk to them about it.I also would talk to my boyfriend about it also. He has friends going through the same thing.Keep your head up and soon it will be over.Im only 15 years old and i am turning 16 this november. Whenever im crying or feel sad i remember that i am older and I turn 18 before my younger sister does.Not only that you will be considered an adult before she does.Remember,karma will get to them and you have your life ahead of you.Its gonna be ok.Just pray,and know you are not alone.

Dec 18, 2007
BRAVE
by: LaSeanda

You need to tell the police. Do something about it and have your dad get custody of you so you can get out of that situation. Get emancipated. I am 15 and am going to get emacipated if my biological mom cant get custody of me. Do something about it I lost my baby because of this. Tell someone or runaway if the police find you tell them whats going on. Runaway to your dads house and he can tell the polica and they will believe him. Its not your fault whats happening. They are the dumb ones. lol. Just find some one to tell and get outta that situation. I am. I wish you GOODLUCK.

Dec 18, 2007
To LaSeanda:
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

If you continue to include your personal mailing address on this site, I will ban you outright from leaving comments. What you are doing is unsafe and could lead to deadly consequences for you. There's a very good reason I strictly prohibit the inclusion of personal information on this site. At 15 years of age, you have no idea who will pick up that address; you have no idea what kind of perverted people are out there and what they will do with that information. As owner and webmaster of this child abuse site, there is a great deal of responsibility attached to keeping my visitors safe; and I take that responsibility very seriously. Please refrain from including your personal information, or I will be forced to take action. Thank you.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Feb 17, 2008
There is always gonna be someone there for you! I know how you feel
by: Anonymous

Im sort of going through the same experience that you are. Im going through an emotional abuse kind of thing. I learned that you always have someone to talk to or to go to. You can sit back and let things like this happen to you. In between those few year that you have to go, anything could happen. It could effect the rest of your life. You can talk to a teacher, counslor, a friend, a friends mother... there is someone that you can reach out to, and they will help you. Those fights are not you're fault. The best thing for you to do is reach out to someone today and get help!

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