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Child Abuse Story From Alison

by Alison
(Illinois, USA)




When I was about four years old my mom started dating this guy who well, lets call him Charlie. Charlie seemed really cool, he was always buying me anything I wanted. A year or so later I remember Charlie always wanting me to stay inside with him instead of going and playing with my brothers. One day he decided that he'd touch me inappropriately, he told me if I told, I'd have to say goodbye to my mother. So I didn't tell. Eventually things got worse, but I still didn't want to tell. I felt as though it were all my fault. I'm almost seventeen years old and I still feel as though I deserve everything that happened. Nobody really knows what went on behind closed doors when my brothers went out to play. I really wish I had told somebody sooner, but I didn't. I waited until I was nine or ten. If YOU are a child that's been abused in ANYway, tell somebody NOW before it's too late.




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Child Abuse Story From Alison

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Apr 27, 2011
Alison:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

First and foremost, you know in your heart that what happened was not your fault. And you know in your heart that you didn't deserve to be abused. In a sense you're punishing yourself for not telling sooner. But this is not on you. It's on Charlie, the sex offender. He was the adult, you were the child. He took advantage of your vulnerabilities and used them against you. He had all the power and control He knew you loved your mother, so he "groomed" you by saying that if you told, you'd have to say goodbye to your mother. So you see, abuse can never be the child's fault; it can never be YOUR fault, Alison. Fault is squarely on Charlie's shoulders. And while I thank you for sharing your story and your all-important message with my visitors and me, I will also say that it's never too late to tell. Please consider some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the guilt and shame you feel for what happened, guilt and shame that is not yours to bear.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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