Child Abuse Story From Alexis

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Child Abuse Story From Alexis

by Alexis
(Indiana, USA)

I am still a teen. I get physically abused by my little sister and verbally abused by my father. My mom met another guy about two years ago and left my little sister and I for him. She moved to Italy. I never understood why she left me for him. I felt like I wasn't good enough for her. When my parents were still married, they used to argue non stop, and I heard every cutting word that was said. It was always when they were drunk or when one was and the other wasn't. My dad is and was a huge alcoholic, so that didn't make the situation any better. My mom and my dad used to beat each other and I saw everything. I cried to myself every night and prayed that everything would go away. Back when I was three, my parents both beat each other and they both ended up going to jail for 3 days while I stayed at my neighbors house. My big sister lived with me and my little sister til my mom moved to Italy. My big sister was forced to move with her. My big sister and I used to get into little arguments. Then she started getting physical and started pushing me around. One she almost drowned me under water in a lake until my dad saw what she was doing. My big sister made up a dumb excuse about how we were "playing". Another time she pushed me down the stairs and put her hands around my neck and picked me up like that. Just because I was little and stole something. She smacked me in the face and punched me in the stomach. I don't and haven't told anyone everything that has happened. When my big sister moved things were okay... Til my dad kept getting drunk. He would cut me down with degrading phrases saying "you're ugly and worthless. You are a mistake. I dont know why you are so stupid. You are completely fat and a disgrace to this earth." My little sister now hits me if she doesn't get her way. She kicks me, punches me, bites me, smacks me, and spits in my face. I don't do anything about it because I know I will get in trouble of I hit her back and if I tell on her my dad doesn't do anything about it. Sometimes I question why all this has happened to me. Why do I have to get verbally abused and physically abused? I question if I really am ugly and fat and worthless. I have scars in my mind from everything that has happened. I have been around abuse my whole life. I don't think this will end soon. I want out. I don't tell anyone what happens or act depressed because I don't want them worrying about me, but I'm over it, and I can't deal with it anymore.

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Apr 12, 2011

Alexis:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are not the lies your father is telling you. You are beautiful, smart and worthy of dignity and respect. You are lovable and worthy of love. It's easy to understand why you would believe all the lies, especially when so much has happened to you. But this isn't about you, Alexis. Your mother left, not because of YOU, but because of HER. Your father abuses you, not because you deserve it or because you are somehow flawed, it's because of HIM. HIS problems are at the root of his abuse over you. As for your little sister, she isn't evil, she's misguided in the true sense of the word. She too is being abused because there are no consequences to her inappropriate behaviour. What's important now is that you get the help you need. Keeping this secret does you no good at all. It will only serve to prolong the abuse. Please consider talking to a trust teacher or a school counsellor. And consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

No matter what you've been told or what you've come to believe, you ARE worthy, Alexis. And I for one am so glad you are here, because I believe that people like you can make such a difference in the world, especially when you're willing to share your story and get help for yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Apr 12, 2011

im sorry
by: Anonymous

it not ur fault at all it just ur parents they probly went thought it when they were younger but dont end up like them if anything u will probly end up getting a bf u think ur in love with and he will hit u and control u if it does happen leave him but dont give up on love or life just talk to some one about it

Apr 13, 2011

Something's Seriously Wrong With Your Parents
by: Anonymous

Alexis, you dad is wrong. You are not fat; you are not ugly: you are beautiful. You are not stupid; you are smart and articulate. You are not a disgrace; you are an asset. You are not a mistake; you are a miracle. You are not worthless; you are worthy of love, dignity and respect. Something's seriously wrong with your parents because they have serious problems and they (even if your mom is in Italy) need help. Oh, and did I mention that they even abused your sisters by teaching them to be antisocial to you? How dare they! The path that they chose is inexcusable. You are not to blame; they are to blame because abusers choose to abuse. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and they only misused that power over you, so the sooner you tell, the better. Please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until hew/she will finally listen to you and help you.

Apr 13, 2011

Always believe in yourself: You'll be the winner over your abusers
by: maurice

Alexis you will jst have to follow up on the telling your real and true story here on Darlene's site: Don't put yourself down: Your sister and so called Father are very wrong: unfair, truly abusiive to you: Don't let them be the winners over you: You be brave: Be strong: as a highly intelligent thinking TEEN you will read Darlene's comment to you: soak in all the loving, encoureing advice she has written to you: Her affirmation of you is real, honest, true from her heart to you personally: The LOVE she has expressed from her womans heart is total respect for you: the hurt, the pain, the trauma you have endured at those people hands is wrong: unreal: not human: just people taking advantage of your vunerability and age: Control freaks: acting the heavy: You don't deserve such abusive treatment from them: Know ALEXIS and say I am not to blame: I am not to blame, none of this is my doing or fault: I need to be loved and cherished and respected for the wonderful and beautiful teen/person I am in my own right: Don't Quit: Don't give up on yourself: Acting on the advice Darleen has given you you'll move mountains with courage: I am almost certain all teens have a special friend or two in their own age and gender: That for me is important Alexis because then you can really talk intimate to each other and help each other how to deal and cope with all that is happening: Your friends will help you act on the advice of Darlene: encourage you to talk to a kind understanding teacher/school counsellor or a therapist: You'll be fine; Now Alexis I want you to begin TODAY having a healthy mind in a healthy body: no sitting in moaning about bemoaning your lot: Get out there with your friends, class mates, fellow students, your own age and gender and take part in Team Games: sporting and cultural activities: You'll know the difference and you'll make real friends for life: I know this is good Alexis as I have encouraged hundreds of teens to have a healthy mind in a helathy body for over 30 years now: There is safety in numbers: Think positive: Act positive: Be positive look in th mirror and say I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH it; be gentle and kind to yourself and your body: hug and cuddle the lack of love from that so called Father and sister and mother and sister who abandoned you into your body: soothe all over with oils and creams: Go on hug itm cuddle, there is no one looking at you except the beautiful ME person looking out at you:

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