Child Abuse Story From Alexia

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Child Abuse Story From Alexia

by Alexia
(Location Undisclosed)

The truth is I don't even remember how old I was when it started. Maybe 10 or 12. To me it's all like a dream, sometimes I think I made it all up in my head. I can't really call it abuse, he did things in such a "inoffensive" way that it confused me. For example, we could just be seating next to each other and he would suddenly put his hand on my vulva. My cousin would touch my breasts or my bottom, and when I told him not to do it, he looked at me and calmly say: What? I didn't do anything?

He actually repeated that to me so many times that I ended up believing I was crazy. I thought I was just making things up and that I couldn't say anything about it because he said he didn't do anything. Once, he tried to rape me at his house but I got away. As I was running out of his house he screamed at me and said: What happened? Why are you leaving?...Once again he had managed to mess with my head.

As I got older it stopped. My cousin and I act as if nothing ever happened. I use to have nightmares every night but I'm 20 now and I have gotten passed it. I know now that crying and whining about the bad things won't make them better. You have within yourself the power to be happy no matter your circumstances.

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Aug 10, 2011

Alexia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Abuse does not have to "hurt" for it to be abuse. Abuse does not have to be "offensive" for it to be abuse. Abuse is when someone violates you in some way, even if that violation seems inconsequential or even if it feels good. No one has the right to touch you in the ways you were touched. And the psychological damage that was done to you with mind games is deeper than you realize. You have and likely still are questioning your sanity. And though I'm glad to hear that the nightmares are done, as you move through the ages and stages of your life, you may well find yourself once again haunted by what happened to you, especially if and when you decide to have your own children. If and when this happens, I strongly recommend some form of counselling in order to help you deal with what happened at the hands of an obviously disturbed cousin, a cousin who will very likely keep offending against young children, a cousin who likely won't stop until made to stop. The abuse likely stopped because your cousin prefers much younger children. In other words, as disgusting as it sounds, you may have aged out for his tastes. Keeping the secret may well put other children at risk, Alexia. And while I agree that we have the power to choose to be happy, I can't imagine how you'd feel if you learned that someone else was victimized by him after he stopped abusing you. Please reconsider staying silent. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Aug 11, 2011

me to
by: m.j.w

Im 12 and my cousin is 8 he is always sexually harassing me one time me and him were sitting in the hot tub alone and i was waering a bikini he grabed the bikini and pushed it down so my boob was showing than grabed it and shook it i dont tell because he still young and i dont want him or me to get in trouble

Aug 11, 2011

When I was a child I thought as a child: Now as an adult I must think as an adult
by: maurice

Alexia: ''WOW'' you lucky wonderful and good 20 year old: highly intelligent: I hope still in eduction: Please read over, very slowly a few times Darlene's comment: You will empower yourself once from within your heart you make real sense of her woman's heart to you in how she spoke to you in her comment: Real and personal to you Alexia: Believe me: I have been blessed to hear her heart speaking to all her visitors and to me: Always personal and totally out of love, appreciation and respect of the brave and the courageous who have searched for and found her site: Her stewardship is so professional and totally trusting of all who tell and realate in the detail and the graphic: she is able to listen to pain in each of her visitors hearts of the effects abuse has has or is having in their lives; She certainly empatises with each one: Her comment to you Alexia I know will give you a new lease of life to live it to the full: You'll know best how to feel about the possibility your so called innocent cousin did to you: I would say he knew fully he was wrong in all that he tried: You would not like another little girl's innocence ruined and her body to be touched by him: Alexia: live your life to the full: Live well: Laugh Often: Love much: especially your wonderful and beautiful self: Have a healthy mind and a healthy body: Alexia: This will mean getting out there being active and alive with your friends and fellow students your own age and gender taking part in TEAM Sports and sporting and cultural activities: You'll know the difference in a short time: I guarantee you'll make natural and real friends for life and have oodles of aquaintances: Value, rexpect and appreciate the natural beauty of your body: Be gentle and kind with yourself: You have been given affirming words in Darlene's comment; You'll do what you know to be the best for you in all she loving shared with you from her heart:

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