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Child Abuse Story From Adrianna

by Adrianna
(Canada)




My parents divorced when I was 4 and up until that point my father was my primary caregiver. Once they divorced I was left with my abusive mother who told me my father was dead. I had a psychotic episode, and because of my mother's drinking everyone blamed my illness on her drinking.

Throughout the years weird things happened. Like my dad would call or something. When I was in Gr. 7 he showed up for a visit and was hoping to stay with my mother.

When I was 18 he died again. I fell into a deep depression.

Even though I left home at 14 I managed to finish high school and work two part-time jobs.

When I was 23 I had a baby girl! Then when I was 24 my sister received a post card from my dad who was coming to visit her.

When we told my mother she was crying and freaking out.

Then we met my dad and I found out that my mother had told him that she had given birth to baby boy that died (my father always wanted a son). And to cover her lie, she had to tell us he was dead.

Then when I was 27 my father died for real in a terrible accident.

To this day I still feel like he is alive.

I hate my mother.




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Child Abuse Story From Adrianna

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Oct 04, 2011
Adrianna:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother has deeply rooted mental problems that have affected you your entire life. She deprived you of a father in your life with her lies, and as a result, she has much to answer for. And you have good reason to feel as you do. But if you hang onto those feelings of hatred without bringing them to the light of understanding, they will consume you and further affect every aspect of your life as an adult, and your child will suffer in the process. Allow your Self to feel, really feel, the emotions that are in you right now so that they will let you go. I do not believe we are the ones to let go of such feelings, but rather, when we allow our Selves to feel them in a safe environment, preferably with a counsellor or therapist, and then put them into perspective, the feelings are no longer what control us. Please seek out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the effects of believing you lost your father when you didn't, not just once but twice, and to help you with the feelings of betrayal you have for your mother. I can understand how you would now have trouble believing your father is actually gone given the lies your mother put you through; it's also wishful thinking. If you did get to spend some time with him, cherish the memories of that time spent rather than longing for something that isn't there. That involves a grieving process that you will also likely need help with, one that was disrupted twice. You didn't deserve what your mother did to you. You're certainly worthy of the help you need to get beyond it. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Oct 07, 2011
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Adrianna, you were given a raw, crappy deal. Your mother was so twisted in her own ways of thinking that she didn't even know how to take care of herself, not to mention be a mother to you. Oh, and it's wrong for her to deny you a father, so never believe anymore of those lies that she was spewing because, remember, lies are lies. Oh, and Darlene is right; I really hope that you try counselling.

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