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Child Abuse Story From A. Lopez

by A. Lopez
(Bronx, New York, USA)




When I was just a lil girl, about 5 or 6 years old, my long lost brother came to live with us from Puerto Rico. He was the oldest out of 5, so my mom would trust him to babysit me while she was out with the others. He sexually abused me and would threaten me if I ever told anyone. I lived in fear with this deep dark secret that no one else knew or even suspected. The abuse went from sometimes almost every day, especially at night when all was sleeping. He would come up to my bunk bed and touch me and cover my mouth so I wouldn't say anything. I was too young to understand what was happening but I did know it wasn't right and I grew to hate my brother. Till this day I have not told anyone about that side of my life. It's too painful to remember.

I'm a wife now and a mother of 2, and have tried to put all that behind me, but throughout all these years those memories are still there, just like it all happened yesterday. I protect my children from everything and everyone. To me, no one is excluded, so I keep my children close and always talk to them about these things because no one ever told me about this. As a young woman I always felt violated, not worthy, not pure. Till this day I haven't spoken to my brother since he left our house after 5 years of abuse.

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Jan 29, 2009
Pure of heart is what matters most...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You ARE worthy. And as for not being "pure"...you are definitely pure of heart; and that's what matters most. You have learned lessons from your terrible childhood experiences and are now using those lessons to protect your children. I commend you for that!

Your sex offending brother is a perverted criminal for what he did to you. He deserved to go to prison for those criminal acts against you. I hope that's where he is, since he doesn't deserve to be free; and if he is free, he's probably molesting other children.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. By sharing your story, you may well have opened the eyes of parents; parents who may now pay closer attention to what is happening within their own homes with their own children.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 31, 2009
You can move past abuse
by: Linda Settles

Your story breaks my heart, A. Lopez. There are so many others who carry deep woundeding from abuse. We didn't have a choice then--but we have a choice now. We can choose to learn, to grow, to heal. There are so many resources for help and healing, A. Darlene has a number of them on her web site.

There are books such as Dan Allendar's: The Wounded Heart/Hope for adult victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse. I hope you will avail yourself of the knowledge that is available to help you move out of the grief and sadness that you have lived with for so long and into a place of healing and joy.


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