child abuse story from Debbie page was originally posted on April 11, 2006.
is from Hamilton, Ontario, Canada.
following child abuse story from Debbie depicts emotional abuse, neglect,
physical abuse, and sexual assault--all of the kinds of abuses.
child abuse effects on Debbie: feelings of betrayal and cocaine addiction
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was nine months old when my mother left my father because he was beating her.
Just before my second birthday she put my sister and I up for adoption so she
could marry the man she was pregnant for. My father's sister and her husband
adopted us (they were her godparents, I came along as part of a package deal;
we weren't to be separated). At least I could take comfort in the fact that
they weren't my real parents anyway.
"We took you in when nobody wanted you,
even your own mother didn't want you." Lovely message to carry
through life isn't it?
I lived through constant torture. Beatings with the belt buckle from as early
as I can remember. A bedroom which was no more than a closet, so dark, so
alone. My sister tried to tell me to just be quiet and be good and it wouldn't
happen. I realized it didn't matter what I did. I grieve for the lost soul I
can still feel today.
moved at the end of every school year. During my first three years of school
social services was involved on 4 separate occasions. Why didn't they
take me away? I found out during the last one of these that they
weren't my real parents.
took you in when nobody wanted you, even your own mother didn't want you."
mother, police-like people came, they didn't make it stop. He would laugh
because he knew I had no power, the world had told me I had no power. I had to
accept that or die. She would beat me and tell me that it was for my own good,
so I wouldn't expect anything from life except to turn out like a useless whore
like my mother.
found her, my biological mother, when I was 16. This was after I left home, the
day of my sweet sixteen birthday.
disclosure, this time the Crown Attorney said they didn't have enough to
prosecute with and there was a statute of limitations. I find this especially
disturbing due to the fact that my sister and I had corroborating stories; we
were sexually abused together in the same bed dammit! I have also since found
out that there is no statute of limitations. When did that pass into
law? I'm not sure, I can't handle the rollercoaster of research yet.
have been in therapy for 10 years now. In three days I graduate from a
treatment program for cocaine addiction. I have a beautiful husband and two
beautiful children (thankfully, both are boys).
My potential to soar was robbed. How do you start to fly from ten feet under? I lived so that I could tell my story and look another survivor in the eye to say from the depths of my soul, "I know how you feel, I've been there, we are survivors!"
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Child abuse story from Debbie was re-formatted May 31, 2015
From Victim to Victory
How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life